Dreamworker believes that every human being deserves the right to live up to his or her full potential.
You may think that people are successful in life because they have money, talent or beauty, but in truth the secret of any person's success rests in their ability to make good decisions.
Proof of this is that there are thousands of wealthy, beautiful and talented individuals who fail every day because of their poor choices. One of the best examples is Bernie Madoff who was once worth billions of dollars and lived like a king but now sits broke in a jail cell!
This is an extreme example, but makes the point that the inability to think and analyze situations can lead to problems.
Ironically, learning how to make good decisions is fairly easy.
Some people actually learn this skill by watching their parents use them. Others may gain them through their associations with teachers, friends or colleagues. If they are fortunate enough to associate with people who have learned the value of using critical thinking skills to help them, they usually do well in life.
However, those who weren't so lucky constantly are plagued by problems that can easily be avoided.
The secret is to find the best possible way to make good decisions. This article is going to teach you how.
Seek Basic Information
The key to making good decisions is to obtain credible information.
The only way to do this is to read books and articles about a particular subject, talk to people who have had successful experience with it, do internet searches and use question words to probe these sources.
You should never accept information at face value, and you should never make assumptions.
For example, if an Oncologist says that you have cancer, you should always seek information from other cancer specialists before assuming that the first doctor is correct about his findings.
Some doctors are better than others because they are more caring, went to better universities, ranked higher in their graduating class,have more experience, continually do research to update their knowledge bases, have better equipment and are simply smarter than the others.
The only way to know who will give you the best treatment is to take the time to learn about the above-mentioned issues.
Once you have all of the information you need, it becomes easy to make a decision that is in your best interest.
In the above example, you've been able to use basic research methods to help you decide about the histories and abilities of doctors you may want to use, but you have more to do because the physician you want may not take your insurance or may not practice in your geographical area.
Also, you have yet to meet him in person because if you do not feel comfortable with him, his skills won't matter.
If you live near his offices, setting up an interview will be easy, but if not, you'll have to decide whether you will want to travel to his location to get the care you need.
If the second option is the case, you'll need to decide whether
- you can afford the money ant time for visits,
- where you would stay,
- what type of transportation you will need and
- whether you'll be well enough to make necessary trips.
You also will have to decide about the effects your care will have on your family.
While these decisions are secondary to the ones directly related to your care, they are equally important.
If you neglect to research them, you could be creating serious problems for yourself as well as your family.
Gathering all information provides you with the basics. Now you need to look it all over so that you can come to a final decision.
To do this properly, you need to ask questions that begin with the words who, what, where, why, when and how.
You likely will have the answers to many of them, but probing further allows you to make sure you haven't missed anything. Sometimes it is the last thing you consider that can make the difference between a good decision and a bad one.
For example, you may have neglected to talk with people who have used a certain doctor for their own treatments. This is an important thing to do, but can be tricky because you will need to have the doctor's office contact patients for you and ask them to call you due to privacy concerns.
You may also want to find out who does follow up therapy for a certain doctor's patients after surgeries. Therapists provide excellent information regarding how well these people fair after operations.
It is only after you know these things that you can come to a good decision about and you should only follow through if you know that the sources of your information are credible and reliable.
Make Good Decisions and Prosper
While following all of the above suggestions may be time consuming, all matter if you want to make the bet possible choices for any situation.
Not all decisions are as serious as the ones for the example used in this article, but all do contribute to your quality of life.
Whether you are making a purchase or deciding about vacation plans, you will always come out ahead if you research, analyze, question and probe.
Far too many people take the "easy out" and let others manipulate them, but this is never a good idea.
It is your life, and you have the right to live it the best way possible. Now you know how to do so. If you follow the guidelines in this article, life will become very good for you indeed
Questions & Answers
Question: You mentioned involving children in house chores and explaining the reason we do what we do. My daughter is so sweet and interested in everything else but house chores. How do I make learning this life skill fun?
Answer: Chores are not supposed to be "fun." Not everything in life is! However, if you can explain to her that the house belongs to her as well as to you and as such, she should want it to be well maintained this may help. You didn't mention her age, but if she is very young, start with simple, easy to do things such as setting the table or drying the dishes. You can show her photos of houses that are dirty and unkempt and ask her if she would want to live in them and, if not, then the only way to avoid doing so is to help out with chores. You can also explain that by doing these things, she is helping YOU and also making you proud of her willingness to do that. You might also want to explain about germs and show how cleaning and disinfecting keeps the family healthy. Kids normally love to help with chores because doing so makes them feel useful and also gives them feelings of accomplishment.
© 2018 Sondra Rochelle
Sondra Rochelle (author) from USA on December 17, 2018:
Natalie Frank: That will help, but schools need to change the way they teach or we may be doomed.
Natalie Frank from Chicago, IL on December 17, 2018:
An excellent article. You make so many great points. Unfortunately our educational system leaves a lot to be desired and the only way not to end up with a country where everyone is led around by the nose is for us to be able to thonk for ourselves. This involves skills like gathering, evaluating and analyzing information. As much of education today seems about rote memory, the only way for this to occur is for kids to gain these skills at home. Thanks for an important article.