Tawnya isn't a wildflower but she isn't lost. She loves Alice, the Mad Hatter, and is absolutely mad, but don't worry everyone is.
Obsessed with Alice Since Childhood
Before I could even read on my own, I began a lifelong obsession with Alice in Wonderland. What seems to be nonsensical madness in a fictional world has comforted me through the best and worst times in my life. In fact, I believe that I’ve learned at least ten life lessons from Alice in Wonderland, and now I’m going to share them you.
According to the cat, in Alice in Wonderland, we are all mad. While that may seem silly to say; when you think about it, it has to be true. I don’t mean we’re all angry human beings walking around shouting and glaring at people, and I don’t mean that we’re all a bit unhinged.
Instead, I mean we all have our unique quirks that others may think make us bonkers. The sooner we learn to accept these quirks as character traits that make us who we are, the sooner we can move on and create our realities.
I’m sure there has been a time in your life when you’ve lost your “muchness.” Think about it, did you use to be much more muchier? If so, it’s time to find your muchness again. How do you do this? You have to remember that until you no longer have a pulse, your story isn’t over. Instead, of thinking about the negative things that have happened to you in your life, you have to remember that we are not what happened to us.
A better judge of our character is how we get up and move on when faced with the things that are designed by nature to make us fall. No matter what has happened to steal your muchness, you can be much more muchier tomorrow.
If Alice were okay with being a wallflower, she would have never made it to Wonderland. Instead, of simply existing, Alice set out to be who she wanted to be and accomplished impossible things. With this in mind, if you are ever given the chance to be a wildflower do it! Remember, in a room full of wallflowers, everyone that enters is sure to remember the wildflower.
Alice grew up in a time where it was inappropriate to think of impossible things. However, the curiousier and curiouser little girl refused to accept that unfeasible things were impossible and went about her life and her path caring nonetheless about what other people defined as difficult. One of the greatest things about Alice is that she is always dreaming of unimaginable things.
She has even gone as far as to dream of six impossible things before breakfast. While some things will always be absurd or simply intangible, dreaming of impracticable things isn’t a fault. Setting high goals and striving to meet them is something anyone could and should do. It’s important never to let anyone else in your life define what is impossible for you!
When Alice followed the White Rabbit, she knew she wasn’t supposed to. Subconsciously, she probably knew following the rabbit would make her mother angry, especially if she got dirty, but she had to do it. She could have simply convinced herself that she hadn’t witnessed a tardy rabbit galloping through the yard, or resisted her impulsive urge to know what the white rabbit was late for, but she didn't!
She followed the white rabbit to Wonderland. What this means to me today is that it’s okay to be curious, it’s even okay to be impulsive from time to time. I know they said curiosity killed the cat, but some of the most famous authors, inventors, and leaders in the world today were curious, and none of us would benefit from their curiosity had they not followed their white rabbits.
So often people are burdened by mistakes they have made in the past. The choices they did or didn’t make, the goals unfulfilled, disappointments, or seemingly unbreakable curses truly get people down and out, but what they seem to forget is that those things happened yesterday, or the day before, or even a decade ago.
What everyone should take away from Alice is that we are a different person today than we were yesterday, and we can be a different person tomorrow too. Whether you choose to continue being the person you were yesterday or working to be a better person tomorrow is pretty much up to you.
When Alice chased the White Rabbit, she wasn’t happy. Her life, her future, and just about everything seemed out of control. This happens in life too, and like many others that have crumbled under pressure and anxiety, Alice fell down a deep dark hole.
She had no idea where she was going while she fell, or even after she landed. What makes Alice different than some other people is that she immediately began to look for a way out. In fact, the entire time Alice was in Wonderland, she wanted to find a way home. When people fall down a hole, whether it’s drugs, depression, or other burdens, it’s easy to stay there, but they should follow Alice’s lead and begin searching for a way out of the hole instead of being content with being there.
For some, the only way to find out where you truly should be is to fall down a hole, bump your head on the way down, bruise your soul a little bit, and then get back up, brush yourself off and look for a way out.
At times in my life, I’ve set goals and created exactly one path to get there. Along the way, I’ve lost my path and ended up getting there—one way or another. What I have to remember like Alice did in Wonderland, is that there isn’t just one way to get to a goal or destination.
Even better, I have to remember that wandering doesn’t always mean you're lost. Sometimes there are just things you need to do or see before you get to where you need to be.
As an adolescent I just wanted to be like everyone else; the less attention that was paid to me the better. But, I wasn’t this type of child, and I’m certainly not this type of adult. I won’t pretend that I’m just like everybody else because I’m not, and I don’t pretend that my daughter is just like everyone else’s because she’s not. I want to be true to myself, and I want this for her too.
When people judge others as “weird” because they aren’t “normal,” I remind them that normal is a relative term, and my reality is just different than theirs. As individuals, it’s our responsibility to create our reality, and not worry about whether other people think they are normal or not.
If we never laughed, cried, or suffered, how boring would our life be? While I'd rather laugh at the top of my lungs than cry till my eyes burn and snot drips down my face, I respect that an important part of living life is experiencing both of these emotions.
In addition to feelings, life is also full of twists, turns, surprises, disappointments, and so much more. Simply existing isn’t enough to truly enjoy life, you need to accept that existence is a lifetime of adventures.
Alice Through the Looking Glass
In May 2016, a new Alice in Wonderland inspired movie is going to be released. I'm a huge fan of the fairytale and I enjoyed the last movie but I'm concerned about how well the new movie will be received.
I'm really going to root for the new movie to be a success but I can't help feeling that it might be a big mistake. What do you think?
A boy named Aliice on August 11, 2019:
Hi my name Jaff
A boy named Alice on September 26, 2018:
Wow. Just. Wow.
I’ve always had a meaningful connection to Alice in Wonderland and as an adult have taken everything she experienced, to heart. I’ve fallen down so many rabbit holes that it’s hard to keep track, but in all honesty - I always look forward to the next one I might fall down and the lessons I will learn. It’s life. And it’s amazing.
There’s a riddle I heard once in a movie and she’s asks, “How does Alice fall down a rabbit hole and come out unchanged?” The answer, “She Doesn’t”. Almost makes me teary eyed thinking about it.
In my life I have so many friends who play a part in my adventures... I have a caterpillar who always asks the hard questions and a Mad Hatter who’s always making the most sense out of non-sense and even a Queen of Hearts who’s always demanding of me and making me the best I can be. I treasure them all.
So the next time you come across a rabbit hole and you see a rabbit
Clang on September 22, 2018:
I think the moral lessons of alice in tge wonderland is a wake in deep misserable dream and yhen you want to back the bad dream because it will be your place to scape reality,
Carla Ferreira on May 01, 2018:
I just loved your article. I'm having a daughter who I will name Alice and you did a wonderful job summarizing all the life lessons from the book here. Thank you so much!
Chlorine on April 04, 2018:
I loved this article. I also was obsessed with Alice in Wonderland from a young age, and agree with all of these life lessons.
Jessica, chicago, il, usa on April 03, 2017:
Great words of wisdom
Greta on September 18, 2016:
Love this artical
Thisandi on August 18, 2016:
This is a wonderful write-up.
I am doing a project and I chose to do Alice in wonderland.So I wanted to get some reviews on how other people saw the book.The way you've seen the book is phenominal .A really great way to look at life.I loved it.
Lew on July 24, 2016:
And don't forget to " keep you head"!
Bonnie Wright from Oklahoma City on March 19, 2015:
I love the insight on this, especially considering this is dealing with my absolute favorite book. Kudos.
Mary Norton from Ontario, Canada on February 07, 2015:
I had been raised to follow rules and my husband always reminds me that rules are there to guide not to be observed strictly. I think I need to release the Alice in me. I really enjoyed reading your hub.
prince bethel from Africa on February 07, 2015:
Great hub. I enjoyed reading it. Voted up!
Jacqueline Stamp from UK on February 05, 2015:
A wonderfully positive, perceptive and reassuring hub - thank you; I shall never read Alice's adventures in quite the same way again.
Lena-brb on February 05, 2015:
This was really insightful! Thank you for sharing! :D
Maria Giunta from Sydney, Australia on February 03, 2015:
What a lovely way to look at life. I enjoyed reading this hub and am still smiling as I type this comment. Everyone has setbacks, I've fallen down a few 'rabbit holes' but there is always a way out, you just have to look for it. There is no such thing as normal, we are all different and have different life experiences, once you accept that then there is no need to judge others.
Joel Diffendarfer from Jonesville on February 03, 2015:
I too have been an avid fan of LC and Alice's Adventures in Wonderland. This is the first time I have every read such a great correlation of the works and illustrations in comparison to everyday life messages. Outstanding and well written. Well worth reading and contemplating. Good job, indeed!
Alice in wonderland on February 02, 2015:
This world is a wonderland and in order to find the magic you have to shrink and become a giant one by one