Filipino Culture: Showing Respect to Elders
The Philippines, like other Asian countries, show their respect to the elder population by gestures and by the words they use before the person's name. Being younger than someone and calling them by their first name is considered impolite and an act of rudeness. If you went to the Philippines, you would notice the Filipinos addressing someone who is older than them by using a word before the first name of the one they are speaking to.
One of these words is mainly used for showing respect in the Philippines, or even in a Filipino household outside of the country are the words po and opo. Both basically means "yes" in English thou there's a little bit of difference between the two.
For a better understanding of how po and opo are used are the examples below, showing you the difference between the two.
Po is used to show respect when called by someone, and when speaking to someone older.
- If you are called by someone older than you, say your mom, dad, uncle, auntie, or an elderly neighbor. "Jasmin! Jasmin!!!" A Filipino child would answer, "po?" (yes?") or "bakit po?" (why?) but with respect. Or while talking to someone older, po is used along with the sentence. "Jasmin, have you seen your brother?" Jasmin: "Hindi po." ("No.") Adding po to the word no portrays respect.
- "It's lunch time already. Have you eaten?" You would then use the word "opo," (yes.)
But aside from those two mainly used words in Filipino houses as a sign of giving respect. There's also other ones that are used to show respect to other older people.
Ate - this is used to show respect to older siblings in the family. The younger Filipino siblings would address or call their older female siblings "ate." If there is more than one older female sibling, the younger ones would call the older siblings " ate____(name.)
Example: The youngest, 12 years old, relating to her mom about the fun she had with her two older sisters would say, "Mom! I went to the town fiesta with ate Jasmine and ate Hope."
Ate is also used to show respect to older cousins just like the way one would call it to address an older sister.
The Daddy - Although some Filipinos whose living a substantial life call their parents dad and mom, there's still quite a few names for daddy for showing respect. Itay, tatay, and papa all means dad and is used by the siblings to call or address their dad.
In cases of step-fathers, still, they are shown respect by being address as itay, tatay, papa, or daddy followed by their first names. An example would be a young boy addressing his stepdad as, "Tatay Manny" or "Papa Manny."
The Mommy - Just like with dads, substantial families or those who really are wealthy are usually address by the siblings as mom or mommy. And then another percentage of Filipino siblings would address their moms as, inay, nanay, or mama.
And in cases of having step-mothers, it is pretty much like with the step-fathers because Filipino siblings would address their stepmoms by calling them mom and then their first name such as, "mommy Julie" or "mama Julie."
Auntie or tita - Filipino used either of these two to address to their aunt. But there's also cases where Filipinos prefer calling their step-mothers tita.
Tita is also used to show respect to people outside of the family. I am an example of this myself. I address my mom's co-worker and friend as "tita Fhil." Another example was, I went home one day with a friend, and she addressed my mom as "tita."
Uncle or tito - Children or siblings used this to address their parents brother. There's a bit of difference thou between uncle and tito thou they refer to the same respect given to one's dad or mom's brother.
Example: A 14-year-old would mostly use the word uncle to call to his dad or mom's brother whose age is closer to his parents, say the uncle is 50 years old. But if there's a small age gap, say the mom of this 14-year-old kid has a brother 22 years of age. The 14-year-old would rather prefer calling his mother's younger brother as tito.
Lola and lolo - means grandma (lola) and grandpa (lolo) in Philippine language. This is how siblings address their Filipino grandparents.
What About Other People?
Filipino children also show respect to other people outside of the family. Here are some other names that are used to address to these people.
Ninang and ninong - ninang pertains to godmother and ninong to godfather. Filipinos don't call their godparents by their first names. Instead, they use ninang and ninong. Examples would be, "I went to ninang Mae and to ninong John and they gave me presents."
Mang - Children and younger adults used "mang" added before the name to refer and as a sign of respect to males older than them in their town or neighborhood or to anyone as long as they know the first name.
Aleng - Use before the first name of an older female as a sign of respect to them. Examples of using aleng in Filipino culture are below:
- I saw aleng Mae and Mang John as I walked home from school. They are new in the neighborhood.
- Aleng Mae owns a mini grocery store on 24th street.