Great Bitches in History
BITCH means aggression, ambition, and toughness. A bitch is a woman who gets what she wants when she wants it. Looking more closely at a bitchy woman such as Madonna, you can't help but notice the underlying qualities that make her into this attractive, successful predator.
She is independent, in control, self-loving and self-respecting. She is someone who sees things for what they are, has confidence in herself and above all a very positive self-image. No wonder she is ambitious, determined and sexy. No wonder that jealous and insecure guys get all panicky around her and react by calling her a bitch.
Obviously, I'm not talking about Madonna. I'm talking about ANY woman of these winner characteristics.
When a man gives his opinion he’s a man.
When a woman gives her opinion she’s a bitch.
-- Bette Davis
I'm sure you already get the picture (of what a bitch is), but in case you don't, here's more:
You know you are a total bitch when...
- You want to turns things around and make a change.
- You actually do act upon this desire without seeking outside approval.
- Your actions make the people around you uncomfortable, yet you couldn't care less.
- Your bitching around makes people come together in a semi-organized bitch hunt. You still don’t care.
- You are tenacious in your quest to assert yourself. You know and like yourself more every day. Nobody likes the fact that you are doing this. You decide that's their problem. You even tell them so.
- The accusations are formed. Secret depositions are recorded. A bitch trial is in the works. You go out and buy a nifty new suit for the occasion.
Let's face it. We live in a patriarchal society with its gender stereotyping and societal double-standards. Women are treated unfairly. There is inequality and prejudice. Women are made to feel that being who they are and doing what they want is wrong, because it collides with men's views on a woman's place in life. In fact, most women are even conditioned to be subservient through their upbringing and genetic conditioning of many centuries. This results in the following numbers:
- 5% of the 190 heads of state in the world are women
- 13% of all the people in parliaments in the world are women
- 15% of top-level executives are women in the corporate world
- numbers are going in the wrong direction
You can learn more about the current state of affairs and what you can do about it by watching the recent Sheryl Sandberg speech in the video below.
The world needs strong-minded women. In order to produce them we need to make sure that women realize it is and has always been their right to be strong and to define themselves on their own terms. That history is actually not merely 'his story'.
Below, I have collected a number of excellent role models for such ambitious women. Read the stories of the greatest bitches in history.
Greatest Bitches in History
Should you choose to tread the road to bitchdom, that is, the road that strong, ambitious women tend to take, you must be aware that it's not easy. The women found in this article are legendary for being the greatest bitches in history - your role models. They lived hard and loved hard. They remained committed in the face of great struggles and may serve as inspiration for many wannabes today.
Tiye, Queen of Kemet, 14th Century BC
Apart from being a glorious mother, Tiye, was a heady queen who gained the title of "Great Royal Wife." She had absolute independence to converse with the highest-ranking political leaders who also held her in high esteem. While she did this, her husband indulged himself in the palace harem.
Tiye couldn't care less that her husband was running around with harem chicks. She made him build shrines for her and a palace with a magnificent pond for her to gaze into.
The moral of Tiye's tale is that by staying focused and being in the know, you allow no one to rival with you.
Always have a plan and never let your emotions pull you off course.
Nefertiti, Queen of Kemet, 13rd Century BC
Queen Nefertiti was no less savvy than her predecessor. She married Tiye’s son, Amenhotep, and got herself so many enemies as no other ruler before her. She was one of the most actively despised women in history. She ruled alongside (and sometimes over) her husband for years, accepting no less than equal respect from all.
She held that women are divinely sacred beings. She also made her husband understand, and changed how Kemet (Egypt) practiced religion in spite of the priest class who felt overruled and resisted her for years. Queen Nefertiti demanded respect for the sole fact that she was a woman, and as such a sacred being.
The morale of Nefertiti's tale is that by being self-aware and knowing and respecting yourself as a higher being, you can fly in the face of any bitch hunt or trial that your enemies are plotting against you.
Understand that women have innate power and wisdom.
Candace, Empress of Ethiopia, 300 BC
You gotta love a woman who used war-elephants to battle Alexander the Great. Alex was in for a good bit of spanking if he was to invading Ethiopia and face this fierce woman-led army. Alexander in the most embarrassing moment of his campaign to conquer the world was turned to flight by the mere sight of the elephants of the Ethiopian Empress.
Candace was well-aware that in any war that is ever fought, there exist two battles: physical and mental. In a moment of life or death, she chose the right tactics to win the right one of these battles and save her kingdom and people. The lesson to be learned from her tale is to be deviceful in any given situation.
Consider more than just one way to get what you want. Be inventive.
Trung Sisters, Vietnam, 40 AD
Having suffered two centuries of Chinese oppression, in 42 AD, Vietnam decided to go into rebellion against the Han Dynasty under the leadership of two women: Trung Trac and Trung Nhi. They led an army of 75,000 with 35 of the generals being women. After defeating the Chinese, Trung Trac became the leader of the now liberated nation.
A family of one mother and two sisters realized they possessed the power to alter the course of their nation's history and to change their world entirely. The Trung did not get intimidated by an army 3 times the size of their own.
The lesson of the Trung sisters to you is 'be assertive'. In most cases, drive alone can change your life in a positive way.
Having your strong-willed confidence in yourself and your sisters goes a long way to self-actualization.
Queen Boudicca of the Iceni, Celtic Tribe, 60 AD
Following the death of her husband, Boudicca organized a massive revolt against the Roman Empire and was successful in gaining her and her daughters’ rights to rule over their people and lands.
The Romans beat Boudicca and attacked her daughters for daring to act in place of a man by governing her own lands. Having found out about this, her kinspeople in Iceni lined up behind their queen and helped Boudicca execute her vengeance on the Romans by beating them in many a subsequent battle.
After suffering being humiliated in public, she answered by fighting to protect her and her daughters legal rights. She succeeded in regaining what was rightfully hers. So be undaunted even when facing clearly hopeless prospects.
Never give up. The first step to overcoming your difficulties lies in believing that you can.
Empress Theodora, Byzantine Empress, 500 AD
Empress Theodora is a perfect example of the kind of life-changing transformation that many women are wishing for today. She started out as a suffering actress with low self-esteem and turned into a war-like feminist who took no BS from anyone any more.
Having acquired her new vision, she pursued equal rights for women and due to her tenacity, there came a time when women could own the very property they spent the "sexy" years of their life acquiring. When a mob made an attempt to overthrow her husband, she told him to "bitch-up" and stay put.
Empress Theodora became a visionary dreaming a better future for women in her empire. More than just dreaming, she seized the opportunity to advance her status in a fetid, oppressive, sexist society. The lesson to be learned from her tale is to be wise and think big. Opportunities to change the course of the world in your favor are plenty. Or as we say it today...
You have all the resources you need to succeed in life, you just need to turn the lights on.
Princess Pin-yang, Chinese military leader, 600 AD
Pin-yang was a crafty artisan who assembled an army of female soldiers to help her father defeat his enemies in battle. She gained the trust of her captured foes by giving them water and food. After Pin-yang's father ascended to the throne of emperor, he made her daughter a marshal with autonomy only given to princes before.
In fact, we know that Pin-yang wanted to be the first female marshal all her life. She was an all-out feminist who bravely went against convention by creating an army of female soldiers to achieve this goal. What she did was much more for political aspirations than humanitarian convictions. To increase the number of her followers she shared her own troops' rations with captured enemy soldiers.
The morale of the story: ambition rules. You have to know what you want to get what you want the way you want it.
Set your goal and then think it, live it, and be all about it.
Amina, Queen of Zaria, 16th century
Amina succeeded her bother as ruler of Zazzua. In the 35 years of her reign, she hoarded great wealth and power from her military campaigns. Under Amina, the nation expanded to the largest size it had ever been. After she ordered “Amina walls” to be erected around each and every one of her military camps, whole towns began to grow around the camps, soon morphing into fortified cities that were everywhere in the land.
After the death of the ruler (her brother), the success or failure of Amina depended on whether she could convince her nation that a woman could be just as excellent a leader as a man. She was well-aware that her leadership would be scrutinized, but she used this scrutiny to feed her progress as opposed to stalling it.
The lesson to be learned from this tale: aim high and be adamant about it.
The level of your tenacity decides whether you are a success or a failure.
Grace O’Malley, Irish Pirate, 15th Century
Grace O'Malley’s motto, "Invincible on Land and Sea," says it all. Her goal was to seek revenge for the assassination of her husband and her lover.
She divorced her 2nd husband and went on her ship to give birth to their son while it was being under attack by rival pirates.
Focus, passion, and energy were three guiding principles for Grace. Her message to the centuries was:
Be aggressive and unstoppable.
Yaa Asantewaa, Queen Mother of Ejisu (Ashanti), 19th Century
Disgusted by the cowardly fear their tribal chiefs showed when facing British colonialists, Asantewaa stood up and said, “If you, men of Ashanti, are too impotent to go forward, then we, the women will. We are going to fight until the last of us is killed." It is uncertain whether the these words alone got them going or the fear and shame of having their women fight their war, but the Ashanti were led into battle by Yaa Asantewaa against the British colonialists.
She felt an inner drive to step forth when none of her cowardly leaders would. By eliminating her fears, she impelled her people to do the same as well. The lesson in this story: when you display your strength and ability, you show others how they can be strong as well.
Courage is the base on which all other virtues are built.
Courage is a virtue and it is said that without it, honor, integrity, empathy and other such virtues have no base upon which we can build upon. Strangely, real courage often lies within the gentlest of souls.
your checklist for becoming a bitch...
Let's summarize the qualities of a great bitch, one that deserves the scolding side glances, malicious remarks and general contempt from her jealous male admirers.
- Independence: most people and institutions you depend on want you to remain so, because they gain something from your subservient status. They are taking advantage of the fact that you cannot leave them. Can you see how this might be at work in some of your relationships?
- self-control: some people seek to undermine your principles or lower your standards. They will call you obsessed, a freak, a maniac and many other names just to eliminate these crucial referential points around which you organize your life. This eventually destroys self-control and results in a relativistic false sense of yourself and the world. Who is trying to manipulate you by belittling your beliefs and values?
- self-love: love yourself and place yourself in front of everything else in your life. Meaningful, long-term relationships are only possible between people who love themselves. By learning to love yourself, you will be able to show others how it's done.
- self-esteem: only by knowing your own worth can you see how worthy other people are of you.
- self-knowledge: only by knowing your true self can you see how true other people are to you.
- confidence: you need to learn to notice the things that raise and lower your self-esteem. Only this way can you maintain a positive self-image. Also, only this way will you notice when others are trying to bring you down.
- ambition: it is said that the real death of a bitch comes when she stops seeking to surpass the limits of her own being. Don't do it.
- determination: by realizing the power of your will, you will also learn to notice when the will of another has been broken.
- mental toughness: your thoughts are everything to you. You are only as good as you think you are, therefore you must realize that you are Very Good.
- right mindset: every bitch hunt, every bitch trial and every single enemy of yours is an opportunity for you to expand your power. There are really no problems in this world, only opportunities to correct things, - says someone in the right mindset.
common pitfalls and things to avoid...
- try to control other people.
- pretend to be something other than what you are.
- suppress the urge to stand up for what you believe is right.
- assume the clichéd role of a bitch.
- hesitate to seize the opportunity for a bitch intervention.
- let anger become your guide.
- use your superpowers for revenge.
- take anything personally.
- refuse assistance from friendly bitches.
Why should you do any of these?