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How to Write an Event Essay About a Memory, Place, or Experience

Virginia has been a university English instructor for over 20 years. She specializes in helping people write essays faster and easier.

Event Essays

Can be about a single important moment or vivid recollections of memorable reoccurring events.


Topic Ideas

trip with family

activity you did with a parent


relationship with grandparent



memories about special gift

event which went wrong

when you lost trust in someone

emotional event

event which went better than expected

sports memory

when you won something

family reunion

friend who taught you something


embarrassing moment

fearful moment

unexpected joy

special aunt or uncle


doing something with family

something you wished could happen again

collecting something

vacation place

moment in nature


something you learned

something you lost or found

object you treasure

Memory Papers

1. Describe the experience so that the reader lives the event alongside you.

2. Include lots of descriptive, sensory details so that readers see, hear, feel, smell, and taste vividly.

3. Use either a chronological (in the order things happened) or topical (parts of the event) organization.

Writing Tips

  1. Organize around a conflict which is resolved in some way. The conflict can be internal or external. The climax will be the revelation and resolution of the conflict.
  2. Write climactically. That means that in the body of the paper, the least important events are first and the most important are last. The paragraphs of your paper should reflect this climactic development. The essential facts should be longer paragraphs.
  3. Slow down and describe moments very vividly. You need to make sure the reader sees, hears, feels, smells and experiences the event vividly. Show how you feel rather than telling about it. What were you thinking, doing or saying that would show how you feel? What details of the setting or other people could explain the emotion?
  4. Conclude with why this story is essential. Don't spend so much time or space on the details that you forget to explain the significance of this memory. Telling us why this moment was pivotal in your life is an excellent conclusion.

Four Organizing Strategies


Chronological is best for a single moment of time with intense action, whether that is internal or external action, or for an event that unfolds in time, like a visit to a grandparent, or a vacation. See Ann Dillard's essay "American Childhood" below for an example. With this method, you:

  1. Tell the story in the order in which events happened.
  2. Tell the events suspensefully.
  3. Explain the meaning after the climax of the story or let the events show the meaning.
  4. Optional: you might use a frame story to start your paper. A frame can be another, similar memory that helps you reflect on the meaning of the incident (this is what Dillard uses in the opening), or it can be a present-day memory that shows the meaning of the past event (which Dillard uses at the end)

Sample Chronological

"American Childhood" by Anne Dillard is a good example of using chronological organization. In this story, Dillard tells a memory from her childhood one winter morning when she was 7 years old and got in trouble for throwing snowballs at cars, being chased down an ally by an adult.

Introduction: Dillard uses a frame story to explain the other characters, setting and scene. She explains that at 7, she was used to playing sports with boys and that taught her how to fling herself at something. She then finishes the introduction by telling the reader "I got in trouble throwing snowballs, and have seldom been happier since".

Body: In the body of the paper, Dillard tells the story chronologically, in the order that it happened:

  1. Waiting on the street with the boys in the snow.
  2. Watching the cars.
  3. Making iceballs.
  4. Throwing the iceball and having it hit the windshield of a car, breaking it.
  5. The car pulling over and stopping.
  6. A man getting out of the car and chasing them.
  7. The kids running for their lives.
  8. The man chasing her and Mikey around the neighborhood, block after block.
  9. The pounding and the straining of the chase.
  10. The man catching them when they could not get away.
  11. The man's frustration and "You stupid kids" speech.

Conclusion: Dillard returns to the idea that this was her supreme moment of happiness and says if the driver would have cut off their heads, she would have "died happy because nothing has required so much of me since as being chased all over Pittsburg in the middle of winter--running terrified, exhausted--by this sainted, skinny, furious redheaded man who wished to have a word with us." She ends the piece with an ironic comment "I don't know how he found his way back to his car."



Another powerful way to organize is to use a key metaphor or object. An excellent example of this can be seen in “On Being a Real Westerner” by Tobias Woolf which uses a series of memories revolving around a rife to explain how he came to understand death.

Metaphor organization works best when several short memories are tied together by a particular object, symbol, or word. Here is how to use this method:

  1. Choose several memories relating to one object, person, or emotion. In "On Being a Real Westerner" the memories are all organized around a rifle: getting it, reacting to his mother's objections, playing with it, acting like a sniper, loading the rifle, shooting a squirrel and feeling conflicted emotions afterward.
  2. Tell memories in chronological order, but make sure the most important memory is last and told in more detail. In "On Being a Westerner" the story of shooting the squirrel and the aftermath is longer and explained moment by moment.
  3. Tie the memories together with a theme about their meaning. The theme in Woolf's story is power. He concludes with the idea that the hunger for power has shaped his growth to manhood, and yet as a man he is powerless to change the past, "the man can't help the boy."

Expectations Unfulfilled

This method is also called "expectations reversed" and is a favorite with many of my students. If you have a memory that had an unexpected outcome which was better or worse than you expect, this can be a good way to highlight the difference. A good example is "100 Miles Per Hour" by Rick Bragg. Here are the instructions:

Introduction: Set up with a clear and vivid description of the expectation. Bragg starts with a clear description of getting a car that fulfills every desire he had in mind. You may foreshadow the disaster. Bragg uses details and suggestions to indicate that everything isn't what it seems.

Body: The reality of what happens (the unexpected event) is the body of the paper. This section should be a very vivid description of a moment in time. In "100 Miles Per Hour" this is the description of the accident.

Conclusion: What does this experience mean? How did the reversal of expectations change you? Sometimes there is an ironic ending. Bragg says that even though his car was fixed "some part of her was still broken" and after someone "backed into her in the parking lot of the Piggly Wiggly" he was so disgusted he sold her to "a preacher's son, who drove the speed limit."


Frame Story

Frame stories are something you've seen often in books and movies such as The Notebook where the story starts in the present and then flashes back to the past, returning to the present at the end. Another way of doing a frame is to have someone telling the story to someone else, as in the movie The Princess Bride.

The student essay “Calling Home” by Jean Brandt does a particularly good job of using this technique along with expectations unfulfilled. Here is how to use this method:

  1. Introduction: Tell a story or part of a story which stops in the middle of the action. Usually, this story will frame expectations. In Brandt's story, the opening is a car ride to the mall. Brandt uses different car rides to frame the opening and conclusion. In addition, there is a car ride in the middle as well which is used as a transition to the second half.
  2. Body: Flashback story which tells the conflict and resolution. In Brandt's story, there are three short stories about her conflicts. The first is an internal conflict about whether she should steal the button. The second is the conflict with the manager who catches her and calls the police. The third is the conflict with the police and her parents. The resolution is her realization of her wrong choice.
  3. Conclusion: Finish the opening story or tell a story which explains the meaning. In Brandt's story, it is a car trip home with a twist in the conflict because she is not in as much trouble with her parents as she expected. It is not just the mall trip which reverses expectations, her expectations of what her parents will say and do are reversed as well.

Frame stories are my favorite technique for students to use because it automatically gives them both an introduction and a conclusion and easily helps them use their present perspective to help explain the meaning of the story. Additionally, this technique helps you to get the readers attention if you start in the middle of the most vivid moment (such as the moment an accident happens) or if you stop before you get to the end (making the reader want to finish your paper to get the whole story.

Uses Frame Organiziation

Why use a Frame Story?

Frame stories are one of my favorite techniques to teach students because they are easy to do and automatically bump your writing up a notch. Using a frame in your introduction and conclusion makes it easier to tell a deeper meaning and almost always make your essay seem more sophisticated and powerful.

Sample Student Outline

For example, a student wants to write about a memory of a fight with her sister when she is young. This fight and the lecture by her mother afterward leads her to realize how much she really loves her sister. The conflict and resolution of the fight will be the body of her paper. To put the memory in context and show significance, she can use a conversation with her sister as the opening and the conclusion. Here is her simple organization outline:

  1. Introduction: Conversation with sister in the present. Maybe this could be the start of a fight. When writing conversations like this you can try to re-create a real conversation, or make up a conversation that is typical of the type of things you would say to one another. As a transition to the flashback memory, you could write something like "I suddenly remembered..." Another way to do this is to have the conversation end and then you could start thinking about the past event.
  2. Body: Describe the flashback memory vividly and the lesson that was learned.
  3. Conclusion: Here are three possible ways to conclude:
  • Return to the conversation with the sister and decide to end the coming fight because of remembering this past event.
  • Have a phone call that ends the fight and brings up the earlier memory.
  • Another way to conclude would be to reflect on the present relationship and how the experience of what was learned about sisterhood in the fight when young has made them close now.

Questions & Answers

Question: How do I write about an incident that left me wise and experienced?

Answer: When you write about an event, place or person, you will probably want to talk about the meaning of that experience and generally, that means you have learned something from it. Good choices for this topic could be:

1. A time when you made a mistake.

2. When someone betrayed you or you had a bad experience with someone.

3. When you failed at something.

4. When you worked hard and persevered at something.

5. When you lost someone due to death or moving.

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Question: How do I write an imaginative essay based on a significant event that enhanced the relations in a country?

Answer: You should choose a character that was in that event and then write the story based on the perceptions and experiences that character would have had in that situation.

Question: How can I describe two different places which have special memories for different reasons?

Answer: You will need to find a connection between the two different memories in order to have both of them fit into a single essay. That connection can be the fact that both places have the same meaning for you, or that they are connected to the same people, or that they are in some way representative of a particular time in your life or part of your personality.

Question: How do I write about a memory about someone who has passed away?

Answer: Writing about someone who has passed away is similar to writing about someone still alive. What is different is that the relationship has ended, but the meaning of that relationship can continue to grow and change as you age and have other experiences and relationships. Reflecting on that person and memories about that person can make you see things that you did not know when you experienced that event or conversation. However, that is true with all relationships. A reflection essay about someone who passed away works best if you focus on one or two memories about an event (recurring or one-time) with that person or a conversation. Tell the story of those memories and then explain what you understand or how you've changed since the time that this happened. You can add whether the passing of that person affects the way you interpret or draw meaning from that moment in time.

Question: How do you write an experience or tour of a place for a magazine publication?

Answer: When writing for print publication, you need to choose a particular magazine that you are interested in writing for. While an article might be able to be written for several magazines, you will have better chances for success in getting published if you write according to the style guide and content of one particular magazine. That means you need first to find a magazine and then study both their instructions and their content.

Every magazine has their own style guide, so that is the place to start. Look in the magazine for information about how to submit and how to get information about what they want from writers. Magazines have to sort through a lot of submissions, and so they will probably give you many clear guidelines, and it is important to follow those closely. Secondly, your best way to understand those guidelines is to look at them while reading articles in that magazine. Here are some steps:

1. I'd suggest that you go to the library and look through the last year of the issues of that magazine.

2. Find a couple of articles that look like the one you want to write.

3. Read them carefully, taking note of the style, the tone, the length of sentences, and the type of content.

4. Outline the article and take a word count of each paragraph.

5. Take that outline and use it to write an outline of your article.

6. Write your article. You can use many of the tips I give here.

Question: How do I write about my dream life partner?

Answer: Unless you are talking about a specific person you already know, that sort of essay topic doesn't really fit into the event essay category. Event essays are not imaginative. They are about something that has already happened to you.

Question: How do I write about something I learned?

Answer: You would describe the experience and then use what you learned for the conclusion of the essay. An event essay usually concludes with what that experience means to you and part of the meaning is often what you learned.


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Write an essay explaining the value of the small everyday event of life.

Virginia Kearney (author) from United States on March 27, 2012:

Thanks Iddrisu! I am not able to teach this sort of essay in my class at the moment because our guidelines have changed, but I really have enjoyed this essay so much in the past.

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