Tips on How to Write a Memoir

Updated on May 27, 2020
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Virginia likes to help other writers get started online. She wrote for eHow, Squidoo, Hubpages, and is a blogger.

Write Your Memoir

Don't leave the pages blank with nothing saved from your life story.
Don't leave the pages blank with nothing saved from your life story. | Source

Write Your Life Story

Writing your memoir gives you a chance to make sense of what happened in your life. Getting started isn't easy, but here are tips to get going and to help you get the words onto paper.

I've led groups in writing about their childhood memories and recently taught classes to seniors about memoir writing. Start writing if only for your own benefit, but you will find an audience in family members, friends, and even a wider readership. I recommend it for every person to preserve their memories and life story.

Think about What Kind of Memoir You Would Like to Write

Pen, and paper, computer, or even a voice recording... save your life stories.
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Examples of the Types of Memoirs

Memoirs come in many different flavors. Some can serve as a portrait of the person or can showcase their professional life. Others types include the personal memoir, the public memoir, the professional memoir written to display someone's public achievements, the travel memoir, confessional memoir, and the transformational memoir. There is also the time capsule memoir that shows a life at one point in time, not the whole life. These can mix-and-match too.

For the confessional memoir, we might look at Running with Scissors by Augusten Burrough or Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls. Each of these best-selling books featured dysfunctional childhoods with a full display of details other individuals might bury from public view. A murderer might write a confessional memoir or if they turned their life around, it might better suit the next category, the transformational memoir.

You can see how the transformational memoir might fit some of the titles above as well. Surviving the hardships of a Nazi concentration camp like Night by Nobel Peace Prize winner Elie Wiesel was transformational. It doesn't always need to be so dramatic though. Coming-of-age stories can fit the transformational memoir category. Breaking Night: A Memoir of Forgiveness, Survival, and My Journey from Homeless to Harvard by Liz Murray is a fine example of this. Memoirs about coming-out as LBGT could fit this.

For the public or the professional memoir, we have examples of Hollywood stars writing about their achievements or a business or political person featuring their climb to CEO or achievements in Congress. The ones that make the best-seller lists tend to have a transformational or confessional element as well. Examples include My Wicked, Wicked Ways by Errol Flynn or All Creatures Great and Small by Herriot. After leaving office, it's expected that a former president will write a memoir of that time in his life.

A travel memoir features not just the life but how that life was influenced by travel. An example would be an account of climbing the Matterhorn. Think of The Voyage of the Beagle, Charles Darwin's travel memoir and field journal. Under the Tuscan Sun by Frances Mayes has traveling to Tuscany as an integral part of the person's life.

The time capsule memoir is one that captures a short time in a person's life. Anne Frank's The Diary of a Young Girl could fit this. The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion covers the year after her husband's death.

The portrait memoir focuses on sharing the characteristics of a person. Look at examples like Me by Kathryn Hepburn or I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou.

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Getting Started Writing Your Memoir

It's hard deciding what to include and what to leave out. With a biography, you'll want to include interesting or significant life events. The memoir is a bit different. It includes the parts of your life that link to your chosen theme. Leave out the bits that don't move the story along or contribute to the theme.

At first, you'll want to write without limiting yourself. Later, you can cut out some parts that just aren't that interesting or don't move the narrative forward.

As you write, you'll see pieces starting to fit together to form a picture of your life.

Probably the easiest parts to write will be often-told family stories. These will flow easily onto paper as they've already been honed through retellings and have good story-telling elements. Start with these, so you build up confidence and see progress.

Another way to get started is by writing about something recent. This is fresh in your mind and should be fairly easy to write.

One further way to start is to define the main character with a description. Most likely, this is you.

Write the Stories and Piece Them Together for Your Memoir

The pieces of your life story will include turning points, descriptions, and insight.
The pieces of your life story will include turning points, descriptions, and insight. | Source

Arrangement of Your Memoir

With a biography that covers a whole life, it often starts with "I was born," and progresses from there. This is the chronological arrangement of a life story. There are other ways to arrange and preserve your memories.

Retrospective: Start with the current time and look back over the life.

Topical or Thematic: Choose a theme, for instance, a career, your religious beliefs, or travel to arrange your life experiences around.

Historical: Use a historical event as a frame for your description of your life. An example of this is my mother's life in the 1940s. As I work on it, naturally World War II is a huge influence on her actions and feelings during that era.

Turning Points in Life: You can arrange the events of your life to hinge around a major life event like losing a job or the death of a spouse. It doesn't have to be a sad event. Perhaps going to college provided the springboard to change your life and become a success.

Decide on the Arrangement

My powerpoint presentation that I use when teaching life writing classes.
My powerpoint presentation that I use when teaching life writing classes. | Source

Identify Turning Points in Your Life

Write about each of those. What led up to that turning point and how did your life change afterward?

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Memoir Writing Tips - Making It More Vivid

While writing a memoir, it's easy to get caught up in writing the facts. Looking back through what you've written, it may sound rather dry and lifeless. Here are some ways to make it more vivid.

Replace ho-hum words with more exciting ones. Look for descriptive words that are vague (a few, some, very, nice). If your sentence was "my uncle was a nice man," you need to add some punch to that. Expand on the topic. "Uncle prided himself on being the family helper when anyone was in need. Once he bailed me out when ..."

Instead of a basic statement like "some days, we went to the beach," punch it up to read, "anytime we could slip out of the house and avoid chores, my friends and I piled into Tommy's car and headed to the beach."

Look at bland verbs and substitute ones with more zip. In the previous example, they didn't just get into Tommy's car, they "piled into" it. This gives more of an active feeling and shows the crowding together.

Add feelings and opinions. How did you feel about escaping to the beach with your friends? What kind of group dynamics made the outings fun or memorable?

Look for more vivid descriptive words or introduce comparisons. Were the clouds just white and puffy or were they whiter and fluffier than a freshly washed poodle? Maybe they towered like giant snowdrifts in the ultramarine blue of the Kansas sky.

Get specific. Instead of "a bird landed a few feet from me," write "a chickadee fearlessly landed just an arm's length away." Sometimes you won't remember such exact detail, but you can enhance it a little. Who's going to say that it wasn't a chickadee?

I hope I've stirred your mind so you'll look over your memoir draft with fresh eyes.

Vary Your Words And Make Them Vivid


Jogging Your Memory

If the memories don't flow easily from your mind, you'll need to try some memory joggers.

Photos are wonderful for this. You need to really examine a photo to get the full benefit. Look at the photo closely to determine what the occasion is and where and when the photo was taken. Start writing what comes to your mind. Describe the setting, the people, and the various items in the photo.

Letters or journals will refresh your mind on long-ago events. You can quote passages or rewrite the thoughts and actions from that earlier time.

Make Use of Diaries to Refresh Your Memory


Stop Dragging Your Feet And Start Writing

It's easy to postpone starting on a big project like writing your life story. One way to overcome that is to do a small amount every single day. Could you spare 15 minutes a day? Surely, you could set aside that much time.

That 15 minutes adds up over the weeks and months. By the end of a year, you'll have over 90 hours of work accomplished on what seemed an overwhelming project.

Fifteen minutes is such a small amount out of a 24-hour day. Let's get going!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Questions & Answers

  • Do you recommend using programs such as Grammarly or Scrivener when writing your memoir?

    You can get the free version of Grammarly and it's quite helpful in correcting misspelled words, adding/removing commas, and alerting you to passive voice. The paid version of Grammarly has additional bells and whistles that are useful. While writing a memoir, this can be quite helpful. For Scrivener, you can get a free trial, but will then need to cancel or pay for the software. It is well-reviewed by writers.

© 2018 Virginia Allain

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      William Leverne Smith 

      2 years ago from Hollister, MO

      Very useful hub, Virginia, thank you for sharing. I suspect, and hope, we will see a number of followups as well. I look forward to them. Great starting point. Thanks, again!! ;-)

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      Jackie Lynnley 

      2 years ago from the beautiful south

      This is great and so well done. I was your first voter!

      I love writing about my childhood, maybe because I love remembering it. Perhaps I will take it further one day.

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      Mary Norton 

      2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      You have teased me to give it a try. I think that you suggestions can also be used when we give our articles a second look. Thank you.


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