Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnet 36 "When we met first and loved, I did not build"

Introduction and Text of Sonnet 36 "When we met first and loved, I did not build"

Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s sonnet 36 "When we met first and loved, I did not build" from Sonnets from the Portuguese reveals the speaker’s apprehension that the first moments of a new love might prove to be illusive; thus, she refuses to believe unwaveringly in the possibility that love had arrived.

This speaker always remains aware that she must protect her heart from disaster. And at this point in their relationship, she knows that she could suffer a terrible broken heart if the relationship fails to flourish.

Sonnet 36 "When we met first and loved, I did not build"

When we met first and loved, I did not build
Upon the event with marble. Could it mean
To last, a love set pendulous between
Sorrow and sorrow? Nay, I rather thrilled,
Distrusting every light that seemed to gild
The onward path, and feared to overlean
A finger even. And, though I have grown serene
And strong since then, I think that God has willed
A still renewable fear … O love, O troth …
Lest these enclaspèd hands should never hold,
This mutual kiss drop down between us both
As an unowned thing, once the lips being cold.
And Love, be false! if he, to keep one oath,
Must lose one joy, by his life’s star foretold.

Commentary on Sonnet 36 "When we met first and loved, I did not build"

The speaker again is demonstrating her inability to fully accept the love relationship that is growing with her belovèd suitor. The speaker must protect her poor heart, which could so easily be shattered if the love relationship should end.

First Quatrain: Love between Sorrow

When we met first and loved, I did not build
Upon the event with marble. Could it mean
To last, a love set pendulous between
Sorrow and sorrow? Nay, I rather thrilled,

The speaker says that when she and her belovèd first met and love began to flower, she did not readily accept that the feelings were genuine; she refused to imagine that such a relationship could become solid. She must continue to guard her heart by holding in abeyance only the possibility of a lasting love relationship.

She questions whether love could endure for her because of the many sorrows she has experienced. She, instead, continued to think of only the potential of love, existing between one sorrow after the next sorrow. She felt more confident that sorrow would remain in the offing than that love would come to rescue her out of her melancholy.

The reader is by now quite familiar with the sadness, pain, and grief this speaker has suffered in her life and that she continues to suffer these maladies. For this melancholy speaker to accept the balm of love remains very difficult. Her doubts and fears continue to remain more real to her than these new, most cherished feelings of love and affection.

Second Quatrain: Continuing Fear

Distrusting every light that seemed to gild
The onward path, and feared to overlean
A finger even. And, though I have grown serene
And strong since then, I think that God has willed

Answering her own question in the negative, the speaker asserts that she preferred to remain skeptical of the hints that seemed to suggest a progression toward the loving relationship.

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The speaker's fears continue to prompt her to hold back her heart because she continued to remains afraid that if she gave way at even a "finger[’s]" length, she would regret the loss so much that she would suffer even more than she already had done.

Quite uncharacteristically, the speaker admits that since that early time at the very beginning of this love relationship, she has, indeed, "grown serene / And strong." Such an admission is difficult for the personality of this troubled speaker, but she does remain aware that she must somehow come to terms with her evolving growth.

First Tercet: Skepticism for Protection

A still renewable fear … O love, O troth …
Lest these enclaspèd hands should never hold,
This mutual kiss drop down between us both

Still, even though this wary speaker is cognizant of her growth in terms of serenity and strength, she believes that God has instilled in her the ability to remain somewhat skeptical in order to protect herself from certain torture at having been wrong about the relationship.

This speaker knows that if, "these enclaspèd hands should never hold," she would be devastated if she had not protected her heart by retaining those doubts. If the "mutual kiss" should "drop between us both," this ever-thinking speaker is sure her life would be filled with even more grief and sorrow.

Second Tercet: Wrenching Feeling

As an unowned thing, once the lips being cold.
And Love, be false! if he, to keep one oath,
Must lose one joy, by his life’s star foretold.

The speaker then spreads across the border of the tercets the wrenching feeling that her words are causing her. This melancholy speaker feels that she must give utterance to these thoughts, but she knows that they will cause pain, even to her belovèd. But if, "Love, be false," then she simply must acknowledge that possibility for both their sakes.

The speaker anticipates the likelihood that she might have to "lose one joy" which may already be written in her stars, and not knowing which joy that might be, she must remain watchful that it might be the very love she is striving so mightily to protect.

Related Elizabeth Barrett Browning Information

• Introduction to Elizabeth Barrett Browning's "Sonnets from the Portuguese" - Elizabeth Barrett Browning's classic work, "Sonnets from the Portuguese," is the poet's most anthologized and widely published work, studied by students in secondary schools, colleges, and universities and appreciated by the general poetry lover.

Commentaries on Other Barrett Browning Sonnets

• Elizabeth Barrett Browning's Sonnet 1 "I thought once how Theocritus had sung". Owlcation. Original: March 2, 2023. Updated: January 28, 2024. EXCERPT: Elizabeth Barrett Browning's Sonnets from the Portuguese unveil a marvelous testimony to the love and respect that the poet fostered for her suitor and future husband Robert Browning. Robert Browning’s stature as a poet rendered him one of the most noted and respected poets of Western culture.
• Elizabeth Barrett Browning's Sonnet 2 "But only three in all God’s universe". Owlcation. Original: March 22, 2023. Updated: January 15, 2024. EXCERPT: In this sonnet, the poet creates a speaker who insists that the relationship is the destiny of this couple; it is karmically determined, and therefore, nothing in this world could have kept them apart once God had issued the decree for them to come together.
• Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnet 9 "Can it be right to give what I can give?".Owlcation. Original: March 22, 2023. Updated: February 1, 2024. EXCERPT: Sonnet 9, from Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnets from the Portuguese, seems to offer the speaker's strongest rebuttal against the pairing of herself and her beloved. She seems most adamant that he leave her; yet in her inflexible demeanor screams the opposite of what sheappears to be urging upon her lover.
• Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s Sonnet 23 "Is it indeed so? If I lay here dead". Owlcation. Original: January 10, 2024. Updated: January 28,, 2024. EXCERPT: In Elizabeth Barrett Browning’s sonnet 23 "Is it indeed so? If I lay here dead" from Sonnets from the Portuguese, the speaker dramatizes the ever-growing confidence and profound love the speaker is enjoying with her belovèd.

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