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10 Amish Ways of Life That May Surprise You

Dalton, Wisconsin, has only a few hundred residents, and most are Amish or dairy farmers.

Dalton, Wisconsin, has only a few hundred residents, and most are Amish or dairy farmers.

Amish Traditions and Rules That May Surprise You

The Amish are a group of people who live in North America and adhere to a strict set of rules by which they live. Their philosophy is based on the Bible and steeped in tradition. All Amish people can be traced back to one religious group led by Jakob Ammann in Switzerland beginning in 1693. Those who followed Ammann became known as Amish.

Populations are spread throughout several states, and though the numbers of Amish are increasing, there is still a significant separation between them and the rest of North American society. Here are 10 practices the Amish follow that may surprise you if you've never been exposed to their religion and ways of life.

A sketch of Jakob Ammann, leader and namesake of the Amish religious movement. Only speculative depictions of him exist.

A sketch of Jakob Ammann, leader and namesake of the Amish religious movement. Only speculative depictions of him exist.

1. Sleeping Together on the First Date

This is practiced by some of the more conservative Amish groups. Sometimes referred to as "bundling," couples sleep together in the same bed all night fully clothed.

Following the Amish rules known as Ordnung, the young couple is to lie beside each other for the duration of the night talking and being sure not to touch. With other Amish groups, the night may be spent with the couple sitting in a rocking chair, the young woman in the young man's lap.

These practices are not adhered to by all Amish groups, just some. In others, dating involves the couple simply spending time together and getting to know one another at the girl's home. On this type of date, the young man would leave around midnight, and another date might take place in two weeks.

The Amish usually date on Sunday evenings after church every other week. On the weeks with no service, they may go on a date on Saturday evening.

What do Amish wear to bed?

Many Amish women wear handmade nightgowns to bed. During the 18th century, the shifts women wore under day dresses doubled as their nightwear. Today, nightgowns are often made from cotton, though they may also be flannel for more warmth.

There is less on what Amish men wear to sleep. During the 18th century, men wore long linen shirts that would also serve as sleepwear. Though Amish dress codes have changed slightly through the centuries, many of the same standards for style, color, and material have remained the same.

2. No Insurance (Of Any Kind!)

Amish people do not have insurance. They believe this would go against a belief in God's will or Gottes Wille. They do not have health insurance, including Medicare and Medicaid.

Holmes County, Ohio, has the highest concentration of Amish in the world—making up nearly 50 percent of the population—and is also the least insured county in the state.

Instead, if a family finds themselves in dire need of financing for a medical bill or legal issue, the community chips in to support one another. Amish communities participate in a monthly "self-pay" program to ensure funds are available when needed.

Do Amish people pay taxes?

The Amish pay taxes on property, sales, and federal and state income. They even pay public school taxes, though the majority attended privately run schools that they also fund. They've received an exemption from paying for Social Security and, in turn, have refused to receive any of the benefits.

3. Having Healthy Teeth Pulled

Keep in mind the Amish don't believe in medical insurance. So, when a tooth gives an Amish person trouble, it's not uncommon in some groups to have the tooth pulled. They may even have all their teeth pulled and get dentures instead. In the long run, this is more cost effective than tending to each tooth.

If you're interested in learning more, read my article about this practice.

4. Use of Horse and Buggy

Amish people continue to use a horse and buggy. The dangers of riding in a horse-drawn buggy are great, and accidents are common. If you consider a collision between a buggy and a modern automobile, you have a recipe for disaster.

Automobiles are heavier and can travel much faster, while buggies are lighter and slower. Climbing into a buggy traveling on the same road as a car brings a huge risk for all involved—the greatest danger being for the Amish passengers.

Some modern communities with large Amish populations have tried expanding roads to accommodate both cars and buggies. However, it can take a while to see this concept through due to the cost.

Some Amish communities have added reflective triangles and lights to add another degree of safety. More conservative groups, like the Swatzenburger and Old Order Amish, adhere to tradition and feel as though modifications and bright colors conflict with their beliefs.

It is heartbreaking to hear of anyone, especially a baby, being thrown from a buggy due to colliding with an automobile and the lack of preventative measures.

5. No Smoke Alarms

When it was required that homes in the U.S. install smoke alarms, the Amish refused, again stating if it's Gottes Wille there will be a fire, then there is nothing that can be done. They don't want to place faith in a man-made device. Some Amish communities have fought legal battles to protect their right to refuse the use of smoke alarms.

The Gutenberg Bible was the first mass-produced book printed using movable type in Europe.

The Gutenberg Bible was the first mass-produced book printed using movable type in Europe.

6. Unquestionable Belief in the Bible

The Amish do not believe in questioning things; adhering to the teachings of the Bible is the basis of life. They're taught to accept the word of the Bible as the word of God. They interpret it literally and follow the rules closely.

Amish churches and religious services use a Bible written in High German or Hoch Deitsch, a language most do not speak or understand. In day-to-day life, the Amish speak Pennsylvania German, a mixture of High German, other German dialects, and English.

Some Amish groups allow for an English language Bible to be read, though this differs from group to group.

7. No European Population

Although the Amish originated in Europe, no communities are living there today. The final European Amish population was in the small village of Ixheim, Germany, close to the French border. In January 1937, the final settlement merged with a local Mennonite congregation.

All considerable Amish communities today reside in either the U.S. or Canada. The oldest is in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania.

8. No Birth Certificates or Social Security Cards

Amish people do not have birth certificates or social security cards as babies are born at homes within the community where these documents aren't needed.

When members choose to leave their community and live in the modern world, they face challenges since they have no proof of citizenship and no way of getting a legal job or a driver's license. They're left with few options, and many are relegated to menial, low-paying work (for which they receive little to no benefits) or end up returning to their communities.

Traditionally dressed Amish women.

Traditionally dressed Amish women.

9. No High School Education

The Amish are not allowed to complete more than an 8th-grade education, as they feel this level of education is sufficient for the needs of their way of life. Some Amish children are driven to pursue higher education, which motivates them to leave. However, if an Amish person decides to leave, having only an 8th-grade education is yet another handicap to seeking meaningful employment in the outside world.

10. High Population Growth

The Amish population is on the increase. Population numbers have come close to doubling in the last 20 years, and while some Amish members manage to leave and enter the modern world, a great many return. They do not use birth control, and many families average having 7 or 8 children.

Amish communities exist in about 30 U.S. states and several Canadian provinces. In the mid-2010s, two Mennonite communities in Bolivia and Argentina reached out to the North American Amish inquiring about affiliation, though they number fewer than 300 persons altogether.


© 2012 Tracy Lynn Conway


Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on June 23, 2020:

Marga, thank you for your input.

Best, Tracy

Marga Corcoran on June 07, 2020:

I feel they are a religious cult. If it works for them great, not the "real" world. I really dislike that so many have puppy mills. These animals suffer so much just to make them money. I can't see how that is following Gods will, to not have respect for life. ALL back yard breeding should be illegal everywhere for everyone.

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on May 20, 2020:

Violet, Jason and Elsa, which facts about the Amish way of life do you find to be incorrect?

Winston, thank you for you for bringing Amish puppy mills to my attention. I will look into this further.



Elsa on May 11, 2020:

You are so misinformed.......

Jason on January 30, 2020:

Your facts are not all true

winston on December 31, 2019:

how about Amish puppy mills? .... you conveniently left that off... extremely cruel- is THAT admirable?! I think not!

Violet on September 14, 2019:

Most of this is not true in the majority of the amish!!

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on May 16, 2019:

James, thank you for your interesting and informative contribution!



James on May 16, 2019:

One aspect of Amish life which was missed is taxation! It is true that Uncle Sam allows the Amish and Mennonites to practice their religion with least disturbance possible: buggies on public roads, their own private schools, right to be exempted from military service and from paying social security taxes, etc. But believe it or not, like all other American citizens Amish have to pay taxes on their income and they do. In order for Amish to file tax returns they have to have social security numbers. By the way they file taxes with help from outside accountants, some being Mennonites taking in account that some Mennonite groups are allowed more freedom in pursuing higher education. Some Mennonites and Amish have argued that they should be exempted from the portion of taxes on their income which is alocated to the national military budget.

GerryAllwin on December 15, 2017:

Sleeping together on the first date

Not as is commonly meant as an euphemism for "sexual activity." They are fully clothed in night wear, which consists of long nightgowns.

Generally they chat until one falls asleep.

This practice comes from that a suitor will be from another community and, as they walk or ride in buggies and carts, the suitor will live far away timewise.

Modern customs and laws put considerable stress on the Amish. At one time Amish girls usually married shortly after puberty, as they took Paul apostle seriously when he commanded Christians to marry in order to avoid sexual misconduct, which is any sexual activity other than fondling one's wife followed by natural sexual intercourse. The "English" passed laws imposing "age-of-consent" restrictions beginning at 12 in 1275 (historically the aoc was 9 or 10 or puberty, whichever came last). The aoc has since then varied among jurisdictions from 7 (Delaware, USA; indigenous tribes in Canada) to 25 (China).

This puts Amish girls having to wrestle with their sexual urges from puberty until the "English"-imposed age of consent, which the Amish believe is best dealt with by marriage as early as possible, in harmony with the Bible (1 Corinthians 7).

GerryAllwin on December 15, 2017:

Amish get birth certificates for their children because every state and territory's law requires it. They strictly obey the laws of the land unless it would cause a violation of their beliefs.

Birth certificate laws are "directory," not "mandatory," as they do not have criminal penalties fot not obeying them.

This does not matter to the Amish and other strict Anabaptist sects. The law is the law and must be obeyed, again as above.

Social security numbers are not mandatory or directory. They may be obtained at any time. Generally the treasurer elder of an Amish community will have an SSN so that they can have a bank account.

Amish do not keep large sums of cash. The community keeps most of its money in a bank or credit union. As they are nonresistant, robbers have been attracted by thinking that they can get easy pickings. The ones who have tried it came away with very little or nothing.

GerryAllwin on December 15, 2017:

The Amish are a strict sect of Mennonites. Jakob Ammann believed that the Mennonites were straying from the straight and narrow.

Though they look and conduct themselves similarly, they are distincg from Old Order Mennoni

Gerry on December 14, 2017:

"With other Amish groups the night might be spent with the couple sitting in a rocking chair, with the young woman sitting on the young man’s lap."

A rocking chair is essential to keep her bottom moving around in his lap. Does he hold on to her breasts to keep her from falling off his lap?

So if he gets an erection it indicates that she is attractive to him. If he ejaculates it means that she is an excellent match for him.

Sounds like an excellent system. All Christians should adopt this system. Today this is.commonly called "lap dancing."

Uhh...where in the Bible is this practice based? Just curious.

David Graber on September 01, 2017:

This article is chock full of partial facts. My family is Amish, German Baptist, Dunkard, and Mennonite. Number 1, is called "Bundleing" and isn't what it is made to sound like. Number 6, What's wrong with that? Number 7, Not true. Number 8, Birth Certificates, yes. Social Security Numbers, No. 9, "usually true". Not many Amish in Virginia.

Zed on June 08, 2017:

Former Amish then, are left with few options other than being relegated to menial, low paying illegal work for which they receive no benefits.

If their life is so strictly based on the bible, why would they do illegal work?

Lisa on May 14, 2017:

We live amongst Amish in our community in Wisconsin. They are the most respectful people I know and enjoy speaking with them when they stop by our home. ( my husband welds for them often.) we buy our produce from them and also get a lot of baked goods for trade on work my husband does. I just wish the people out there would raise their children with more respect like the Amish have . We all would live in a better world as they do.

Johnnie wood on April 30, 2017:

There are amish in belgium and irland.

Susan on February 14, 2017:

With regards to #7, a small Beachy Amish congregation associated with Weavertown Amish Mennonite Church exists in the Republic of Ireland.

Nik Cole on January 08, 2015:

Even though their life style is not normal in our society. They teach their boys how to be real men and girls how to be women! I am a believer of the word of God, that's on point for me. I just don't think I could survive without electricity lol. Good article!

Ronel Wakeford88 on December 13, 2014:

I love the way the Amish firmly stand on not questioning the bible. That is a very good moral. I think all people should stop questioning the bible and follow God's word as is...but by the inspiration of the Holy Ghost of course.

Theresa Franklin from Hemphill, TX on November 15, 2014:

Very interesting article. I didn't know some of these. The one that surprised me was sleeping together on the first date. Never would have thought that. What is the purpose?

Jacqui from New Zealand on November 08, 2014:

Interesting hub.

Not sure we have Amish in NZ, but I do know of a group (a large group at that) that live similarly (except for the shunning of modern technology - in that they have a website, but most don't use the internet), that recently had a documentary screened about them.

As a person without a belief in any Gods, I may not agree with their religious beliefs, but I respect them in their strength of faith/conviction.

Thanks for sharing this hub

Tommy Pritchard from Columbus, Ohio on November 07, 2014:

Great Hub! I live in an area where there are Amish. I have never gotten into any conversations with them, but I find their lifestyle quite interesting and I appreciate their fervor in following the Word.

Penny Godfirnon from Southern Iowa on September 06, 2014:

I lived among the Amish for 19 years. Each group has different rules and ways. I got very close to them women, they are my friends. My daughter also worked with their Midwives. The babies born at home DO have both certificates, as many of them travel to Canada and they now require they have on. No social serucity card ever. Theyalso do not accept any government help. A common belief among the critical is they pay no taxes. This is not true. They pay sales tax and property tax. Also on the date where they spend the night together, they "BUNDLE" which is wrapped and sometimes sewn together in a blanket all night. I have had many a heart to heart talk with these women, [against the elders rules}! and I asked isn't that a temptation to these young people. The answer was they know what they are not to be doing., Subject closed. OUr group considered Old Order could not ride in a car unless it is to a Doctor appointment. I have takent them to many. If you are stoping at the store, Walmart, restaurant they may go in but cannot ask to stop. They use a lot of herbal remedies and chiropractors , before they will go to the Doctor. As for the dentist, they have acquired dental tools and yes numbing stuff and pull their own peoples teeth. HUSH HUSH STUFF . THey have an Amish magazine which they publish if someone needs Medical care money, and they have card showers. People from all over send $1.00 it adds up. THey will accept private help if the hospital offers it from donations/ inheritance to the hospital. The dating works the same, and everyone knows its going on but is to be kept a secret until the marrige plans are published.Ours do not go past 8th grade, but let me tell you what they learn in those 8 years is amazing. Very sharp math skills and reading ability. I used their books to home school my children. I was so surprised. They don't allow their pictures taken, but really don't hide from it either anymore. We have had three buggy accidents ain our area. One fatal. If you have ever wittnessed it it would break your heart. Even with signs that say share the road, with a buggy on it people are just too busy. On the other hand I have seem my froends riding along alseep at the reins and the horses know their way without a driver. They do get rebellious horses at times, and skid dish as well. My home is full of their wonderful items they sell . I have ceiling high book shelves, night stands, baskets, food, jelly and jams, quilt items. They do make a good living. They are frugal. They live very modestly to later, with cash many times building a nice home. They live in what we call morton building type buldings at first on their parents property. If and it usually doesn't happen they marry before 21, the parents must be pai. Why because sadly they young people make money for the parents, running stands, they watch the other children, sew ect. The men enjoy lots of travel and much more freedom. They attend lots of auctions in far away places. The families do travel as well. Women do travel to family and special clinics at times, usually at naturalist type. They always take the bus, plans are not allowed. They do hire drivers many times as well. They call us the Engligh. They women are not to wear bras or panties. THey us bindings, or a diaper like fabric pinned. Buttons are not allowed, the women safety pin their dress fronts. The men have zippers and hook and eye closers. I have gotten in trouble with the elders for sharing too much with the women, or giving them convienances they are not allowed to have. I invited the mothers and children to a birthday party in town once. We lived in the country but had an Herb shop in town. So we had it in town. THey were shunned for it. GRRRRR all we had was cake and ice cream, hot dogs and chips which they eat. We played a cotton ball game. So simple. I used the word party, not allowed word. If I had called it a frolic, or gathering it would have been OK! I have have had dinner with many of them, bring all the ingredients for home made Pizza in the wood stove.YUM! Ice cream afterwards. They came from all over! I made 14 Pizzas. I have spent many a night at the hospital with them, and their children. I have made many an emergency trips to get them help. They are people with the same desires and cares of us, they just don't show a lot. That is a glimpse of my life with the Amish.

Hendrika from Pretoria, South Africa on August 30, 2014:

Very interesting. I wish I know more about their believe in the Bible. What can be considered literal? There are many seemingly "inconsistencies" in the Bible that has to be taken in context. Do they do that, or how do the handle it?

John Fisher from Easton, Pennsylvania on August 20, 2014:

Nice Hub. Lancaster Pa is only a short ride from where I live, so we frequently drive over there to indulge in some Amish cuisine. I did not know that there were no Amish people in Europe anymore. Very interesting fact. Thanks.

Ari VK on July 01, 2014:

I live in Indiana surrounded by Amish (Dutch & Swiss), German Baptists, and Old Order Mennonites. As someone who has had three babies at home with a midwife- it is not difficult to get a birth certificate from the Health Department. It is almost shockingly easy. All Amish I know have birth certificates.

Many also work high paying jobs (labor jobs, factory type or construction) because it is difficult to farm for a living. Others have seasonal green houses to bring in income. There are good documentaries out now that show the struggle some Amish have with making good money while working away from home. Their goal is to stay home, yet well paid work pulls them away from farming for a living.

All Amish churches are a bit different, in that they can vote as a church to start doing something or stop doing something. This is why you will see some with lights on their buggies and others not, or some women only wearing black and blue and others wearing pink and purple.

Thanks for sharing more information on the Amish! I enjoy being their neighbor.

Lisa on June 28, 2014:

Just a quick comment: I actually think that the language is called Hoch Deutsch instead of Deitch, isn't it? That would be the correct word for German ;)

Michelle Ascani from Deep in the Heart of Texas on June 19, 2014:

I must say that I admire a number of their ways in dependence upon the Lord, but I do not agree with the fact that they do not reach out to others in a missionary capacity. This is the great command that Jesus left us with. It is so important to share and explain your faith to others so they can see why your heart believes what it does.

Sandy from Florida on June 02, 2014:

Really great Hub. I have family in Ohio, but know very little about the Amish. Great information

Joe from north miami FL on June 02, 2014:

Wow the Amish are certainly interesting people.

Julie Provost from Tennessee on June 02, 2014:

Very interesting! I didn't realize there were no Amish in Europe. We live right by a lot of Amish communities. I find their lives really interesting.

charlie from From Kingdom of God living on Planet earth in between the oceans on April 20, 2014:

Some of the amish are some of the most hypocritcal people I have ever met. The will not own a car but will pay to go anywhere with you in yours or in the back of a truck. They will not have a telephone but will drop money in a pay phone all day. And many have a cell phone -- kept in the outhouse. Some will use a diesel engine to perform work for them but not a gasoline. Some groups are far different than others, some quite liberal and some extremely conservative. But if you are going to stand for something stand for it and if not don't say you are and sneak around it. If they are looking your way and talking in swiss or german they are probably making fun of you. having been around several different groups of them I have little respect for them

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on April 16, 2014:


Great name, btw! The Amish are intriguing; they live side by side with a modern culture but hold on to what they believe in. For most of their history they were either persecuted or not respected either for their religious beliefs or for their way of life, which go hand in hand. They have gained more respect now that modern society seeks ways to live "greener" and have a smaller carbon footprint. You are not the only curious one; the Amish tourist industry is big! It would have been nice to befriend an Amish person but this is perhaps easier said than done, they are typically hesitant to relate with outsiders.

Thanks for a great comment!

Best, Tracy

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on April 16, 2014:

Jama Genee,

What a great funny story! Just thinking of the time it would take to run a basic errand in a buggy is hard but the flip side is that life was meant to be savored not rushed through. Thanks for a great comment!

Best, Tracy

theomajor from New Zealand on April 11, 2014:

It is beautiful to see how some people defy the modern way and adhere to some key principles of God's way. Faith is critical to avoiding insurance, a form of usury. It appears that those dating rituals may relate back to the original gospel; Ruth.

Nicole from Michigan (the Mitten), United States on April 07, 2014:

I went to University in Big Rapids, MI, where I saw Amish people for the first time in my life who actually lived that way of life. Since then, I have been curious about them and exactly what their different (from mine) way of life was. I saw them all the time in their horse drawn carriages driving down the road going to Walmart. I assumed they did not travel to Walmart very often, wondered what they bought there, and wondered if they did certain things outside of the norm for the Amish and that was why they went to Walmart. I liked seeing them around, but was not sure how they would react to someone walking up to them and asking them honest questions. Anyone would think that was weird of someone to do. Now that I think about it, I would have loved to ask them questions and get a peek into their lifestyle that way. I could have written a nice paper about it (I majored in English and have a Bachelor Degree) and learned a lot as well. I would have been all for it if they would have been. Missed opportunities.

Thanks for the great hub! It was nice to learn a little bit more about the Amish.

Joanna McKenna from Central Oklahoma on April 01, 2014:

There are quite a few Amish in the Elkhart IN area, where one of my daughters lived for several years. Once on my way to Michigan from Elkhart on a two-lane highway I nearly wrecked the car laughing at the scene in the lawn in front of an Amish barn. Parked in the grass were two buggies, one slightly larger than the other, with a sheet of plywood propped upright against both on which was painted "Low mileage".

Alas, I was late for a lunch date and didn't have time to stop to snap a photo. From observing the Amish customers at the local Walmart on visits to the daughter, however, I tend to think the sign was meant both as a statement of fact AND as an extremely good attempt at secular humor! ;D

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on February 20, 2014:

Hi Jlrmcb, Thank you for sharing your first hand information. However most Amish births take place in the home, in which case they will not receive a birth certificate.

Jlrmcb on February 16, 2014:

Being a labor room nurse I can tell you that Amish people do come and have their baby in the hospital and do get both certificates. I live in PA.

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on February 12, 2013:

Sheri - I think you are right and there are trade-offs to both the Amish and modern way of life, but the Amish lifestyle certainly wins out as more peaceful and certainly far more attuned to nature. With magazines like "Simple Living" and a growing interest in home gardening we can see many people are drawn to aspects of the Amish way of life that the Amish themselves have never strayed from.

Best, Tracy

Sheri Dusseault from Chemainus. BC, Canada on January 31, 2013:

That was interesting. I sometimes think a simple life like that would be peaceful.

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on January 28, 2013:

Michele - The Amish way of life is far different from our modern way and with that brings quite a set of intriguing behaviors and practices. I am glad you found it interesting.

Best, Tracy

Michele Travis from U.S.A. Ohio on January 11, 2013:

. I live in Ohio, but pretty far away from them. So learning about the Amish is very interesting. Thank you for writing this hub.

Voted up.

G9 on December 19, 2012:

They are nutts!

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on September 03, 2012:

LaThing - The way in which some of the Amish conduct their first dates does seem to go so far against the puritanical conventions that I have always thought to be traditional; it does make you think. The Amish culture is fascinating, the ability to look at this culture, as though we are traveling back in time feels like having a window to the past. Yes, "live and learn." Thanks for the comment and the vote.

Best, Tracy

LaThing from From a World Within, USA on August 24, 2012:

Really enjoyed reading your hub. I have always been fascinated by the Amish culture, and your hub pointed some more things that I was unaware of. I am surprised by the first date thing, wow! Live and learn...

Thanks for the info. Voting up.....

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on August 22, 2012:

Om Paramapoonya - You make a good point, it might seem that a culture that is so different from the mainstream might dwindle and this has happened to the Shakers, however, in the case of the Amish, the population is thriving. Also, greater numbers of Amish are choosing to join the church than ever before, estimates are at 90%. I think this is in part what makes an interest in their way of life even more intriguing. I agree that it is so hard to imagine living this kind of life but on the other hand we see a lot of trends that emulate their way of life such as buying food locally, eating whole foods and trying to have a small carbon footprint etc. I am so glad you enjoyed the hub!

Best, Tracy

Om Paramapoonya on August 18, 2012:

Thanks for these fascinating facts. It was a very fun read. What surprised me the most is # 10. I always assumed their population might have dwindled in this modern world. Obviously, I was wrong. Although I can't imagine myself living the way they do, I also find there are some admirable things about them. Their strong sense of community, for example, is quite notable.

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on July 30, 2012:

Teylina - What a beautiful moment to have witnessed, priceless really. I think you are right, the Amish couple were warmer in that moment than you were. Thank you for sharing this!

pstraubie48- Looking at how others live is a great opportunity to consider how we choose to live our lives or to even consider that we have options, we don't necessarily have to follow a life we were born into. I think you are right, the shunning is difficult for all of those involved, but the purpose is to keep the the family and community together. Encountering Amish families as you have must have been interesting but at the same time the Amish are not interested in the outside world.

Best, Tracy

Patricia Scott from North Central Florida on July 27, 2012:

Thank you for sharing this information. Some of it i was aware of as I lived in PA with my sister for a while and we would travel to Lancaster County. We often encountered Amish families traveling in their buggies. O my.

I have great respect for those who choose to continue to adhere to their beliefs. It certainly requires, from the outside looking in, a rigid adherence to rules.

I have read however of shunning which of course if part of the religion as well. I understand the premise of shunning but think it must be very difficult for those involved.

It is not my place to judge the choices others make. We should practice our religion as we are guided to do.

Again thanks for sharing this.

Teylina on July 25, 2012:

It was a really great hub, and I learned a lot! Will have to share a most beautiful scene from those days. My husband and I were trying to make time (haha) through heavy snowflakes and inches already piled to get to his mother's during Xmas season years ago. We passed a relatively small, wooden, well-constructed Amish store with about a dozen buggies (all enclosed) reigned in and several people talking on the porch. But when I turned forward again, an open buggy was coming our way, and with the "city" lights hitting huge snowflakes as they trotted toward us we could see the young unmarried couple looking up and at each other and laughing big-time while she occasionally tried to snag a flake w/her tongue. They were having such a good time; with that particular group we knew all unmarried couples had to use open buggies. As cold as it was, my husband said, "that looks like something out of picture; they're probably warmer than we are with all those robes." The Amish are rarely seen having fun, and it was a great sight to remember. You've done some great research; I haven't, so it was a really good hub-- and brought back a good memory! Thank you so much!

Tracy Lynn Conway (author) from Virginia, USA on July 24, 2012:

Teylina - That is so interesting to hear how much you have learned from your numerous interactions with Amish and former Amish people. Yes, they are private people and buggy accidents are an awful reality. Thank your for sharing your personal experience and I am thrilled that you enjoyed the hub.

Best, Tracy

Teylina on July 23, 2012:

Tracy, great hub! My former in-laws lived in the middle of Amish country in Pennsylvania (near Lancaster), and I met two couples who had been married for many years but had left the Amish way of life. Learned a lot from them, and, when they would occasionally speak at the grocers' you could learn a lot by observance and asking simple questions. As a "private" people, I was always thrilled to just get a returning smile! There are quite a few Amish areas elsewhere--TN, middle states, and you did a good job of pointing out their differences. Buggy accidents are critical, but their right.