30 Struggles All INTJs Can Understand
The INTJ is one of the rarest personalities in all of the personality kingdom. We probably need more of them as they generally are one of the smartest and most intuitive.
They are the face of many villains. You can do a Google search on INTJ villains and a number of them will pop up from Draco Malfoy, Palpatine, Magneto, Mr. Burns, or Jake's Dad... from Adventure Time.
This personality type is a much-needed part of your reality. They can see things that maybe the rest of us don't quite have the jewels to see.
The INTP is free flowing in thought, and somewhat indecisive and might not have all their sheep in order. An INFJ will sacrifice logic for the abstract, is feeling oriented, and is humanity driven to the core. The INTJ is like the INTP, but sharp and focused. The INTJ isn't near as spontaneous as the INTP. The INTJ are like the INFJ, except their ethics can be different. They know when to hit the destruct button rather than make the sacrifices INFJ folk find so appealing (and also get wrecked over.) The INTP and INFJ are probably the most similar to the INTJ because these three are often considered the most intelligent in Myers Briggs.
INTPs top the IQ charts. They're a machine for intellect problem solving, but their emotional intelligence is weaker and often a thorn in the side. The INTJ usually scores right after them. The INTJ is super intelligent, but doesn't like to veer from the path as much as an INTP. In comparison, INTJs are not as spontaneous, they're not as grounded, but they do have a better handle on their emotions... sort of. Whether they wants to admit it or not, Fi isn't exactly their best friend either. They've most likely focused so much on developing Ni and Te that their Fi doesn't seem as practical to use, and is very deep in the back of their mind. INTJs can erupt with emotion that no one else in the room expected, but they felt the entire time. This is why INTJs make for great villains—the emotions are often held back, but when it peaks—if not fostered correctly—it can be very dark, angry, and depressing.
Thinkers / Rationals
Champions / Idealists
Caretakers / Artisans
Guardians / Strategy Masters
Struggles of the INTJ
- INTJs have an overwhelming need to be by themself. They would be happy on an island where they can think all day. And that island would be structured perfectly. Neatly. During all the hours of the day. And everyone goes to bed at a reasonable time.You can study all you want, not be bothered, and can finally focus on your favorite ideas. An INTJ could live on an island with all the other INTJ personalities and never interact with them... and most likely be very content. All problems seem solved, humanity is at status quo... all good, right?
- She has confusion as to why people can't see the most logical solution... immediately. Then she will have to communicate the logical prowess from her brain out her mouth. Which works, of course, but can be a bit blunt if not careful. INTJs talk with their logical brain, and complain in their head with their emotions.
- They have trouble being able to get into a relationship until they're older. These folk love to date other INTJs. Many may choose a hermit-independent life for years. Or they may get caught up in the dream of a person with more emotional reasoning as their primary or secondary function. You may get lost in the whirlwind of dating an ENFP, but an ENTP might be a better choice, actually I really think an ENTJ makes the most sense. That P quality can really egg an INTJ on.
- He will become obsessive about details whether a stream of facts or metaphors: like getting stuck on numbers, buttons, rows and columns, particular sounds, and repeating patterns. To the outside person, an INTJ being stuck on a pattern that he's discussing can sound like a car going out of order or stalling.
- They know how to be a protector of people... and also how to bite into a person's deepest fears, ego, and stupidities.
- They have a whole series of things that annoy them. They think well through the mind and have made lots of unique systems for themselves linguistically, mathematically, and scientifically. This may cause them to do humanitarian work out of guilt rather than love. Why is this an issue? They'll have a difficult time connecting with people and will be stuck connecting with the idea of people.
- Being a bit too systematic to the point where creativity is lost. Then they will force spontaneous creativity which may be hard to follow. Or glitchy.
- Sensory difficulties. They might not be in touch with their body, but think they are—and this may cause you pain, sudden falls to the floor, getting sick, or sudden impairment.
- Feeling a strong need to only be with the same kinds of people. But also... to live together on an island where no one has to talk to one another.
- Feeling left out in group settings, but unable to fully express why... They may want to be left out. They're not sure how to express your feelings because they're abstract and not necessarily understood by others. There's a genuine complex in having logic easily come out, emotions rush out, and getting people who are less equipped for thought on the same page, if there is a same page.
- Weird moments of performance ability that no one was expecting. Wait, a minute... you can be an actor? You do poetry? What is this painting? There's sides to you... that we were not expecting. Like when my friend suddenly decided to dress up like a mountain. Why?
- So strategy minded at times that others can be hurt. You don't mean to hurt others, just sometimes you gotta be curt.
- Feeling as though you could be king of your domain, but are too into solving problems for the greater good that you come off more like a chancellor or wizard-hermit. But you wouldn't mind having a wizard-hermit hat.
- You may struggle with crowd dynamics. They may be too busy and too unpredictable and also lead to unfavorable circumstances or conclusions.
- A love for ideas that can often be difficult to match. You could sit and think about things for an entire day. You could sit and recite speeches in the bathroom and no one would know it. People often miss out on the full, beautiful picture that you are.
- A massive amount of introspection, self-talk, and a dark side fueled by knowing too much evil. There's a reason several of the great blockbuster trilogies have villains of this personality type.
- I have never seen someone cook in a more strange way than an INTJ. I'm not sure how your brain is processing how foods come together, but dumping a lot of paprika is usually not the best way to go. This personality has a mad-scientist-like mind, so I assume bad trials are sometimes favorable.
- You want people to make their own decisions, but sometimes you don't like their decisions. You'd prefer they listen to you and follow through with it, but you don't want to be an asshole about it. You just think they're going about it the wrong way.
- These souls could have many caves that people don't know about from movie theaters, long walks, grocery stores, or closets.
- Sudden moments of disengaging from group activities to go on walks of your own... which confuses people more than you'd like.
- Constantly being blindsided by the strangest things which can also cause paranoia. How in the world did I not see that flying pig coming?
- Having strange interests in things that others don't quite understand. Or connect with. Niche interests. Collecting stamps and learning spells from ancient Norwegian books.
- A need to conquer something.... but lord have mercy.... what? WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO CONQUER? TO THE CAVE!
- Sudden needs for things to be clean that really don't matter whether they are clean or not... like the baseboards or dust behind the TV. Peculiar interests in cleaning, let's put it that way.
- They sometimes tend to respond to conflict with logic and reason, rather than the desired emotional need.
- You don't really care what a lot of people think that much, which can be confusing. You're not for the bandwagon. You are a rebel. You really honestly think you're right. YOU ARE RIGHT. But I hate to tell you this: you are not always right. That's how the INTP beats you every time... and how the INFJ knows how to skirt around you. You need those two to be your friends -- as well as the ENFP, ENTJ, and ENTP. They balance out some of your stubbornness.
- Intuition that is lightning speed fast and addictive... but can leave you feeling empty-handed or excessively stubborn.
- They are able to leave a relationship which should be ended, although they may dwell on it in their minds for awhile afterwards.
- Perfection can be their bane. They're constantly looking for it. Obsessed, I would say. But could sacrifice too much for it—like their time, relationships, and finances.
- Have no patience with inefficiency and confusion.
How to Be a Good Friend to an INTJ
- Keep things clean. Dirty dishes? Do them.
- Be concise. Don't go into the depths of nothing for no reason.
- It's normal if they go on long walks and bike rides. Don't harass them about this too much or they'll draw into it more.
- Play to their interests and hobbies. They like talking about that. It's a great way to bond with them.
- Kill all stupidities you have. Or hide them... but they'll find your stupidities.
- Tell them you appreciate them.
- Keep things somewhat logical and orderly.
- Trust them when you can... don't be afraid to not trust them either.
- Be honest. Don't lie. They're a powerhouse of upset when you lie.
- Let them solve problems.
- Do what you can to help them bring out their emotional reasoning. Because for many, they don't have that down to a fine art just yet.
- They are fans of acts of service. Do something good. Help them to believe in humanity again.
- Let them be a villain for a little while. It might be more of a fantasy of theirs than you think.
- Plan ahead. Going on a date? Make plans. Impress them with how you can make plans.
- Let them lead.
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