Andrea writes on various topics from dating, couples, astrology, weddings, interior design, and gardens. She studied film and writing.
The INFP is one of 16 personalities in Myers-Briggs. INFP stands for introverted, intuition, feeling, and perceiving. They are dominated by introverted feeling, followed by extroverted intuition, introverted sensing, and, lastly, extroverted thinking.
They belong to the idealist family with the INFJ, ENFJ, and ENFP. They make for a great friend, cheerleader, and dreamer. They have an endless ether of imagination and creativity. They’re truly beautiful, warm-hearted people — and they are like cute little pandas that need quiet time and naps.
They are soulful (and that’s fantastic), but they need help with some of the practical burdens of life. They will be your friend through thick and thin. They can take on the world — they can make everyone smile, and they’re some of the sweetest people you’ll ever meet. We all have our struggles in this world — the following are some of the unique struggles INFP personalities tend to endure.
The Struggle Is Real
1. They have an inclination toward procrastination. The INFP has a difficult time with deadlines, plus they’re eager to please, so they’ll take on more than they can chew.
2. They can be super lazy. If not matured, they’ll never clean their room, dishes will pile up in the sink, and their spouse or roommate will take care of any and all financial concerns.
3. They struggle to say what concerns them. Sometimes this can lead to extreme passive aggression — and for the other person, there is no win to the situation. The INFP's passive aggression can be manipulative. You’re avoiding finding a compromise or a way to negotiate.
4. It burdens them when they have to do something unkind. Hard conversations challenge their core qualities and disturb their gut. Conflict can deplete them of energy. They may isolate themselves and nap a lot.
5. Difficulty getting their crap together. Between college and getting settled in a career, all of it is really overwhelming. They can do it, but they may change their minds several times when it comes to picking a major or a career.
6. They have a terrible, horrid time getting over someone from their past. They give their heart with devotion and uniqueness. Cutting ties with an ex is really hard for them because they have to reverse engineer core parts of themselves.
7. They will protect themselves in a hidden, isolated, and distraught shelter with a fountain of tears streaming down their face. It would be better for an INFP to talk out their problems with someone so they don’t slide into depression. Those dominated by feeling and intuition sometimes struggle to express their emotions in words they feel comfortable sharing with others.
8. They are stubborn and have a difficult time seeing where they may be off-kilter. These beautiful souls are the definition of spontaneous. They can get into some really weird stuff. Sometimes this gets out of hand, like having a birthday theme about babies traveling the universe.
9. They had a difficult time expressing themselves as a child, and instead of relying on empathy, they may have been cruel or mean to others, particularly siblings. Their giant hearts are a difficult gift to accept and master.
10. They have a horrid time with theory and trying to figure out its application. Their worst nightmare: being stuck in a room with several intense philosophers. They like creative things, but nerding out on particular streams of thought can be grating.
11. They may think they’re terrible at communicating, and they'll go through huge periods of isolation. Despite this notion, the INFP is charismatic and great at making friends. This personality is well suited to make friends with ambiverts who can take them under their wing and help them to speak up more.
12. Their desire to do something is strong; however, their stamina is low. Don’t ask too much of them because they have a small gas tank, and you can overwhelm them by asking too big of a favor.
13. It takes some time to get to know them and to get them out of their shell. They have several defense mechanisms to protect their core. They’re not even sure when they’re in defense mode.
14. They may suddenly give up and quit in fits of spontaneity. They can suddenly decide they don’t want to be in a relationship, scrap an entire project, leave their home, and drop out of school. They often regret these impulsive decisions.
15. They are hyper-creative, but they have a hard time sharing their inner world. They love their inner world, and they hate criticism. If you’re too hard on an INFP, they’ll close off their world.
16. They fold too quickly in conflict. Unfortunately, people can use this to their advantage if they want them to fold.
17. They struggle with developing their intuition and need to be around extroverts to develop it. The problem: extroverts can easily overwhelm them.
18. They dream super big all the time, but they need help when it comes to getting things done. They’re amazing visionaries, but day-to-day stuff can be elusive.
19. They give up easily. If they’re trying something new and they don’t see progress, they get insecure and quit.
20. They can be so overwhelmed by their emotions that they’re unsure of what they want. This can spiral into sadness or anger.
21. Suddenly, the INFP is in a new and exciting relationship, goes three sheets to the wind, then gets really negative when the relationship stabilizes, and is unsure if it’s what they want. INFPs can lose traction with their romantic relationships because they’re uncertain about what energy they want to put into them.
22. They want to be humble, so they won’t give themselves the credit they deserve. They have a hard time with compliments, they worry selling their artwork is too ambitious, and they worry if they express their thoughts . . . they’ll come off full of themselves.
23. They’re too worried they’ll bother someone. They’re a little too conscientious of other people’s space and boundaries.
24. Sometimes they get too laid back and comfortable — like never getting out of bed, never putting on clean clothes, or never taking a shower.
25. They are usually adaptable and congenial unless one of their ruling principles has been violated, in which case, they stop adapting and become staunch defenders of their values. They will be uncharacteristically harsh and rigid in such situations. This can spook those around them.
26. They are quick to find a personal angle in any critical comment, whether or not anything personal was intended. They tend to take any criticism as a personal attack, and they’ll become irrational and emotional in such situations.
27. They are more irrational than they realize. They might not see how much their emotional logic and spontaneity guide them.
28. A TJ personality is likely to be threatening to an INFP — making managers, teachers, and parents often sources of pain. The INFP needs to be around people who are flexible, gracious, and patient.
29. There isn’t enough time to play and be creative — and there is too much time required for work. They need creative expression, not monotone and doldrum work routines.
30. They may be eager to start something new but quickly lose interest if it takes too much time or effort. This can result in splurges of activity that end in a big bang.
31. They may have problems with confrontation and find ways to avoid it. It would be better for them to approach the problem directly. This will actually help their relationships and make them stronger.
32. They may go through periods of hoarding everything and then giving everything away. They impulsively buy stuff, and they impulsively give stuff away. This can be confusing to others.
33. They are brilliant, greater than they even know. People with this personality may struggle to see their potential. They may struggle with confidence.
34. They can become obsessed with their body and also forget to take care of their body. They give themselves rigorous diets that often won’t stick.
35. They struggle with extremes. There’s a lot of balancing act going on, so they shift a lot. It would help them to take in and sort more information to combat this, but their dominant mode of thinking is through emotional decision-making. This can make it difficult to carry out visions. They have beautiful dreams and should be encouraged to have dreams.
36. They are more crafty than they’re letting you know. They might not say things to your face, but they freely will to others. Encourage them to have better communication. They need to talk directly to people, not behind their backs.
37. They should not be pampered. If you start taking care of them, you’ll be taking care of everything for them. They need to be more self-sufficient.
38. They have an intense hatred of negativity. It can blind them. They’re sensitive to their environment.
39. They can be too hard on themselves. The INFP’s inner critique can run amuck.
40. They are some of the most genuine, important people we have, and yet they often don’t see it. They’re so kind and humble that they don’t see their importance, and so they’ll recline to the shadows or corners. We need more of them in the center and upfront.
© 2015 Andrea Lawrence
Alexandra on April 22, 2020:
my inner world is all about other people. how am I the catalyst that moves others to to their best? im not happy if my close people are not happy
Coffeemims on February 12, 2020:
Having the words 'mbti practitioner' in your username doesn't actually make you one. Nor does it make the article's claims any less valid just because YOU don't agree with all of them. I'm an INFP and I agree with all of them. And finally glad someone realized that not all INFPS are into bubbly, pointless 'philosophical' debates and convos that are good for nothing other than wasting time and acting like a philosopher wannabe.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on December 04, 2019:
This comes up a lot where people get confused by what Myers Briggs means by feeling -- it means you have great social understanding of problems around you. That is an intelligence. Thinking was a poor choice of word on the designers of these personality profiles, but thinking means more logical. You can look at a problem without taking social considerations into the frame. You have an engineering kind of way of looking at things. Philosophy, writing, discussions about politics and the like have more to do with social understandings of the universe. Not everyone is graced with that ability. And some people can mix all of this together in their brains quite beautifully, jumping from any and every school of thought they chose. Some people also don't care about these academic things at all -- and just want to play and have fun and use their bodies. Intuitive types tend to lean more toward concepts.
There are both positive and negative qualities leaning one way or the other on the T-F spectrum. INFP is actually considered one of the most intelligent personality profiles on the scale, so don't fret too much about it.
The real issue is the way Myers Briggs decided on their wording, which confuses people regularly. Instead thinking vs feeling it should have been logic vs social thinking.
Parys West on November 09, 2019:
I had to make an account just to comment on this but it is worth it. I struggle between INFP and INTP. Trauma is what happened. Extended period. 20+ years in total. Anyhow, maybe this is going to make me sound like an un-ordinary INFP and that is fine. I just want to note 3 things:
1) We are VERY smart and yet we rarely get credit for it. When you/a person reads an article about INTP or INTJ, in the first few sentences the article will mention how smart they are, but we get the whole "INFP is so emotional and sensitive" bit which leads me in to number 2:
2) We are NOT all emotional fluff bunnies who just think and make decisions with feelings. This is a number 1 fad that needs to die with descriptions on INFPs. I am sure that there are some who really does think with their feelings, but we all don't and we certainly all aren't sensitive. I've taken the liberty of reading a book all about INFPs and they concur with that notion that it is an assumed fad that needs to die.
3) I don't know about the rest of the INFPs but I LIVE for logical discussions and philosophy. I actually excelled in that class in college and received an A for the entire course. I love stripping concepts down, taking a part what I need to know about the concept and then reconstructing an idea based on what I've learned. It's some work involved but it is still fun.
Visiting back to two. We are MORE THAN OUR EMOTIONS (shouting for INFPs to read and let them have ingrained mentally)! We are great writers, we can hold down debates, we can cook, clean, create, build, disassemble (one of my favorite pastimes), analyze! Anything that someone else can do, with great determination/if we really wanted to, we can do the same and it may come natural to us but we won't know until we try!
Andrea Lawrence (author) on November 07, 2019:
I'll take 98%, that's pretty high.
MBTI practitioner on October 14, 2019:
Not all of this is correct. Are you MBTI certified?
K on September 18, 2019:
I am an INFP. Before reading this, I thought that a lot of my weaknesses and my mentality were norms and many others experience the same things as me. I am glad to learn more about myself from your sharing. Thank You :)
Sharon Mensah on June 12, 2019:
Most of your points apply to me so much. Like 98% There are many things I do that are stated there that I always thought were just bad habits. I realise now that it's because I'm an INFP. And number 10 points out one of my greatest weaknesses. I simply find it too difficult to comprehend theories and pretty much most discussions especially at work. When I try to comprehend and write, it feels like I'm worrying my head. It affected my long essay in school and my jobs at work. This is despite the fact that I have had excellent grades in other areas and courses. It makes me feel I'm unemployable. My confidence level is near 0. On the other hand, I'm always dreaming of new business ideas. Too frequently. I haven't been able to succeed in any yet even though I tried to implement two of them. It's too frequent that everyone around me is fed up of my ever-changing new impracticable ideas.
AMI on April 02, 2019:
Wish you would have put this into a spelling and grammar check before publishing
Klea on March 21, 2019:
Andrea Lawrence (author) on September 13, 2018:
Thank you for your passion and encouragement to others to seek self-growth and to not be too hard on themselves. May you continue to be a bright light.
iDeaWoman on September 12, 2018:
Heyyyyy everybody...super awesome unique womans!!! So guess what the INFP personality is amazing...i hv some of these weaknesses above but people didnt you hear we can do anything we put our minds...people have fun, take a deep breath relax calm down... You guys are gonna do so well at improving your personality like me. An ISTJ personality type is inspiration and motivation for me...there is a lot of values you can learn from them... Lets be more self compassionate I'm 17 and I love working on my personality weaknesses. Trust me you guys can do really well when you develop Te and Ne... Just tell yourself all fears must see death... Im working on flaws and love the improvements... I've been working hard on my personality, I do schedules, self declarations, pray, cry, give up and start all over again. Chill out guys working on your weaknesses can be so fun. I met this amazin iStJ guy and he talks little loves socializing but doesnt have anything to say. I probed him a bit :) cause i love asking questions and he was one a the best things that happened to me that week. When i went home i just started to understand him... He seems like he doesnt feel but when i felt his energies in my stomach it was strength... I felt calm, at peace, rational, i spoke less, i was dutiful, not lazy, obedient, more observant, understand myself, he made soooooooooooooo happy, but i expressed thru completing routine chores... He had this impact on me kn like a couple mins of spending time with me. Even now like yh 1 week later am still happy... He made me understand better what it was in me that i was really working before he met me... His personality was a medicine especially cause he made wanna pray more and God loves that... I just wanna make him like made me i told him he has an amazing personality but i didnt express my feelings well so i still think think i should write him a note... I dont do well with words and am scared he be hearing my voice too much... Lol i just him to be as happy as me and learn as much from me as i learnt from him just to make things even... I think i just right him a note abt the goodstuff i saw in his positive self and just encourage him to pray cause God is on his way... Guys your gonna be great like me just work hard and quit on your flaws dont let em boss you around you dont need them... Being responsible makes things happen... Things arent gonna be perfect but your gonna see, feel and experience waaaaaay better days of yourself if you joyfully work on your flaws... The best is yet to come... Thanks for this page... I love being INFP its one of the best personality in the whole wide world i just love it a lot... Good luck guys... Remember your OUR personality is awesomeness!!! Ding! Yh thats a game sound... :) SWEEtttt !!!
Benman on September 03, 2018:
Reading this always makes me feel better inside when other people misunderstand me. Thank you for writing this.
Lily on August 23, 2018:
All of these tendecies and behaviors strike me as heavily relating to INFP, except number 10. Most Intuitive Perceivers love pondering theoretical concepts and philosophy. Number 10 does not seem like a true INFP trait whatsoever.
Cherry Pink on August 08, 2018:
I am an INFP. I can relate to a lot of what was listed, except the tendency to fold during an argument. This is true to a degree for me, at times I can be a push over and other times I am assertive. Also, I do not theories nor philosophy boring in the least. I enjoy analyzing but I am not the best at it. I can apply practical application and find it necessary to do so, at times, to understand the full implications of a particular theory. Anyway, the issues of procrastination, isolating, and continual self doubt are true to me. Plus, I have the tendency to rely on my loved ones a bit to much to take care of daily matters is something I know I need to work on.
Luke on June 23, 2018:
Sorry but I can’t help but disagree with No. 10. I would argue INFPs EXCEL at theorizing but are weak in the practical applications. However you stated they would be overwhelmed with philosophizing and theorizing. Just my opinion.
Jason on May 02, 2018:
This article is 95 percent accurate to me. Wow it was scary and awesome reading this. Thank you so much. My only question is , I don’t think I’m all that creative. I’m not into making art or music. I definitely don’t want to write a novel. I have a weird fascination lately with getting my CDL and becoming a truck driver. Not sure if that will fit me or I’ll be miserable. I know I’m not cut out for what I am doing right now which is sales. Suggestions?
Srishti on April 21, 2018:
Hi, I read this article and it was like reading about myself. I have been struggling with what to do in life. I was working but had to leave the company as they were relocating and now it has been 6 months and I am sitting idle at home. I am not able to decide if I should go back to doing a job or maybe do a career change and go into teaching. I have all the above said bad habits (procrastination, laziness, irrational). I want to do some good as well as make a living for myself. I don't know. I am confused.
maria on March 22, 2018:
Hi. I’ve taken the test a few times and it typed me both as an infp and an isfp. But this article made things a little bit more clear to me, that I’m probably an infp cause I relate to this so much. I will say though that I have trouble relating to the good traits of an infp. I mainly recognise the bad traits (procrastination, isolation, introversion, irrational ). I don’t know, I’m having trouble finding talents and good traits about myself. Maybe I’m unable to see them. Thank you for this article.
Beatifully flawed on March 07, 2018:
Hi psychoxlogic - I'm really sorry you feel the way you do about being an INFP. I spent the first years of my life being very miserable because I didn't know where I belong, why I saw the world differently why I felt every emotion so intensely.
The people I hoped would understand me never did, and I was always expecting people to understand me and accept me while I hated everything that I was.
Its platforms like this that helped me discover who I am, to know that I am not abnormal and I am one of the 4% who make up the INFP population.
We are very intelligent people, very sensitive and extremely creative.
We are a bit shy at times and awkward personalities, but we have to
own everything about who we are and accept that we are wired differently and perfectly.
I will never wish to be anything else than an INFP and even though I struggle with certain things, its ok, everyone has their own challenges to overcome.
Be at peace with who you are, and I promise you when you have met the right person, they will embrace everything you see as a flaw.
Wait for your own people, that is what I am saying to you.
Hope one day you will love all your flaws like ive learned to love mine.
Gilbert on March 05, 2018:
Please understand that introverted feeling is not emotional, but cognitive. It is a decision making process (judging function) that works exactly like introverted thinking by deconstructing an idea into it's constituent parts to ascertain the true meaning (or value or significance) and acquire total understanding of the idea. Please refer to the top of page 388 in Psychological Types by C G Jung for his statement regarding these two introverted judging functions. There is much more to be said, but Professor Jung is far more eloquent than I.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on March 02, 2018:
I've been told a time or two the theory part isn't so applicable. I just remember my INFP friend who would take naps if things got too analytical.
Bailey on February 17, 2018:
Theses were all very very accurate. Maybe I cried, maybe not okay bye
Becky on February 09, 2018:
I'm an INFP and this list fits me almost perfectly, except for discussing theory. I actually enjoy it, unless I'm misunderstanding what you mean by "theory." The world is endlessly fascinating and I like hearing and understanding how other people perceive it. I want to understand people, I want to understand the world, and I want to know why things are the way they are. Will I listen to or get into a conversation of mathematical theory? No. But will I listen to and potentially involve myself in deep discussions in some of the sciences, philosopy, etc? Most definitely!
Andrea Lawrence (author) on February 02, 2018:
You don't need to function like everyone else, but rather look at what functions and INFP has and look to strengthen those. All personalities have a function that is weakest for them that they struggle with. INFP is fantastic at making social connections and also coming up with these otherworldy dreams the rest of us wish we could understand. INFP is going to struggle with TE, extroverted thinking which has to do with looking at things around you and solving them without a social input.
Here is more about the function: http://personalitygrowth.com/extraverted-thinking/
To encourage it, remember:
1.) Don't act on impulse. Slow down. Ask people for accountability. Your way isn't the only way.
2.) Try doing menial tasks. Do puzzles and clean your house. Get your brain thinking in a way that doesn't grab your creativity or emotions. Do things that require a step by step process like recipes. By increasing your TE you will actually improve and strengthen your top 3 functions, so even if it drains you -- it is the core treatment you need for your personality.
3.) Use your phone to time yourself.
4.) Don't be too hard on yourself and try to do everything at once. Baby steps.
5.) Stay away from things that make you indulge or become hedonistic. The world and its pleasures are attractive to you, but they can actually detract from your own personal development.
Debbie on January 21, 2018:
Who says logical decision making is better than emotional or intuitive? A person can logically argue any point they want to make....any point.
psychoxlogic on January 19, 2018:
hello! i am an INFP and to be honest i wish i weren't. what you said up there is true; we are a society that is constantly moving forward, and we don't have all the time in the world to be daydreaming ideas that will, in a practical sense, most likely never come to light. the problem is, it seems that i am almost exactly all the above flaws up there and i want to change so that i am not hurt by the ways that this society is structured so that i can really be productive and efficient and not be so emotionally affected. is there any advice that you would offer INFP personality types? any ways to deal with failure and emotions so that we can overcome them and function like everyone else can?
elizabeth on November 22, 2017:
I'm a 19 year old INFP and most of this articles goes in line with my personality. There's something that still confuses me though. Why is so difficult for us to concentrate on doing something and despite it being important, (like studying for a final, pa the phone bill, go grocery shopping, calling to make a doctor's appointment, or simply paying attention in class)? I find myself worrying ALL the time about these things and even if it causes me severe anxiety, I can't bring myself to care enough to do them. If I do end up doing them, I half-ass things in my opinion, or I just basically do it based on a mentality of 'one day at a time' and the fear of disappointing others as my motivation. Which I think it's not healthy at all.
Chynna on October 10, 2017:
I am an INFP and I agree with 90% of this article. I don't agree with the theoretical part; I love philosophy.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on September 16, 2017:
Logic and rational are based primarily on perspective. Logic is almost an art form, because people tend to notice when they see sharper, more refined logic. So it can, in a sense, be a vague word to determine mental aptitude.
As for #33 -- this has more to do with INFP sometimes not realizing how valuable they are and cutting themselves short.
#39 This point doesn't correlate with the above one. I think INFP tends to think in abstract terms that can be more irrational than they realize. It can seem wise to them, but can also pigeon hole them. INFP's weakest function is with thinking -- which has to do with problem solving without taking into account other people and social interactions. INFP does well to use emotional reasoning in a situation, but without some of that social context and having to do problem solving on sole variables -- an INFP can end up doing some funky stuff that backfires on them. This complex between the high Fi and the low Te can make them crazy. That's with all personalities though, balancing the top and lowest functions can take time.
K.A. on September 14, 2017:
This is quite accurate yet something is unclear to me. We're better than what we give ourselves credit for (33) and don't need to be so hard on ourselves (39)...yet we are also more irrational than we realize (27)? I don't see any good in accepting irrationality. I suppose like mentioned in 35, it would be helpful to further develop auxilary function Ne, but even that isn't enough, really.
Decisions being made irrationally. Life would be chaotic.
Daniel on September 06, 2017:
Sorry maybe that comment was a bit too short, but it was the first thing that cought my attention. I am an INFP, i like it even though it can be tough. Not getting things done, rather dreaming about something big, wanting to change The world, feeling too much... All good, but im not a cute little Panda. If someone other than a very dear person in my life called me that, i would give them hell for doing so. And calling INFPs so isnt really helping their case. Other than that, thank you for your post, i enjoyed reading through it and found quite a few parallels.
Daniel on September 06, 2017:
Im not a cute little Panda...
Mallika on August 17, 2017:
I truly couldn't be more grateful for an online article. It's scary accurate for me as I seem to be quite an extreme version of an INFP - all of the typical qualities multiplied x 10:) It's very important to know, that even though we are pretty complicated and not the most social people, we are not impossible to understand and to connect with on a mind-and-soul level. Yeah, the struggles are real - but everyone is fighting their own demons! And INFPs should for sure be kinder to themselves in order to win that battle. After all, we are naturally good at giving others benefit of the doubt, forgiveness, compassion and encouragement - we don't have to learn that, just do our best to direct the efforts inside as well:)
With that being said, it's extremely important to remember, that INFPs are one of the personality types most likely to sink into depression. If you have an INFP you care about in your life - please have an eye on them and notice those hermit tendencies in advance, as that could be a sign of something way worse, something they simply don't want to disturb you with and try to manage on their own. If you are an INFP and you feel depressed or at a bad place mentally - please remember, that there is nothing to be ashamed of and there's nothing embarrassing in asking for (professional) help. You and your inner light and warmth are a precious gift for this world and it's absolutely unacceptable to give it up to depression and anxieties. You are soft, but nowhere near weak!!
Andrea Lawrence (author) on August 03, 2017:
Ah, glad to hear it! I can understand why they would drain you.
Jenniferdby on August 02, 2017:
Andrea lawrence, thank you for saying that about T people wearing INFP people out. I have found that to be so true, and Its good to have it validated.
This whole article validates my being though, and I am grateful for it!! Thank you!
Andrea Lawrence (author) on July 11, 2017:
INFP is considered one of the smartest personalities, though their weakest function is extroverted thinking. If that's not your weakest function, then you would not be an INFP.
The dominate trait is introverted feeling, followed by extroverted intuition, introverted sensing, and last extroverted thinking. I can see where abstract thinking, which the INFP dominates would come easily, and philosophy and law can fit into that. Math and science can too, but it can be very exacting, and I find INFP wants endless options and less rigid planning or rigid answers. Both a beauty of the personality and a difficult spot to deal with for itself at times. Especially if you are not trying to work through the extroverted thinking function. I think going to school at such a high degree would help strengthen it, and make you a force to be reckoned with.
Kukkie on July 10, 2017:
I think philosophy can be interesting for an INFP.
I am a INFP student of law, which is all about logic.
If I am on a cross-road with a group of friends, and I want to go to the left, without having a logical decision for my choice, I sometimes use logical arguments, which are of no importance for me, to persuade others. It works!
So philosophy can be interesting for me, unless it is an American philosopher (I have forgotten her name) who says that egoism is good. In reality, only a few philosophers are interesting. But a novel will always be more fascinating.
Math and exact sciences are more problematic.... (and boring)
Andrea Lawrence (author) on May 23, 2017:
I'm sorry, what?
lashawn on May 23, 2017:
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Andrea Lawrence (author) on April 24, 2017:
Ah, this is getting more fascinating. Some personalities accept theory without application, perhaps others only like it when they can instantly see application.
email@example.com from upstate, NY on April 23, 2017:
I guess it depends on how the theory is presented and if it has personal application.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on April 22, 2017:
INFP and theory isn't my first thoughts either. The closest INFP I know would take a nap if a bunch of people were talking too theoretical. The INFP is highly abstract. They are better at creativity + application. They might be inept at theory, not adept.
firstname.lastname@example.org from upstate, NY on April 20, 2017:
#5- "This personality has some of the greatest struggle getting their crap together. Between college and getting settled in a career,"
I'm an INFP, 57 years old and still struggling getting settled into a career. You must be reading my mail.
#10 I disagree with, the INFP is very adept at theory and application
#22- "Their strong perfectionist tendencies may cause them not to give themselves enough credit."
This seems true to me at least, its worth remembering.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on March 11, 2017:
I am glad to hear that! You are not alone. It can feel like that as an INFP, especially since it is a rare personality. But your kind is much needed in this world, and you make it a better place.
Lindsay on March 10, 2017:
This was amazing. Reading things like this somehow makes me feel a little less alone, like somebody actually understands me. As an INFP, I am unpredictable and struggle to communicate outside of writing, so nobody really understands who I am. This article was a great comfort to me. Thank you.
Avni on March 05, 2017:
Most accurate post on infps's. Can't agree more.
a.b on February 28, 2017:
I find this to be very true for my personality (Mostly, but then again, we're all different), and I'm really glad this was put into words
Savannah on February 17, 2017:
I hate being an INFP and I wish can change my personality. I've seen others never struggle as hard as I am over the little things. I find it really difficult to stand up for my self in any conflict and it drives me nut.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on January 13, 2017:
Philosophical daydreamers, we need you badly!
Andrea Lawrence (author) on January 13, 2017:
There is a certain core personality that comes out once you see all four letters. This helps to figure out people's functions, which really allows you to look at your weaknesses and strengthen them. All people have extroversion, introversion, feeling, thinking, judging, perceiving, intuition, and sensing. Some are going to have a much higher understanding of one giving them a crutch in the other. It's about balancing it. That core weakness from the lowest function isn't going to disappear over night. It's a conversation throughout life to strengthen it. The eccentric value of INFP through introverted feeling is astronomical. They are considered one of the smartest personalities of all, their weakness, extroverted thinking. It can be difficult for others to see their logic as it comes out of them. This creates a certain amount of misunderstanding with others. Very "T" people in my experience wear INFP folk out, unless those people are guided by N.
Rachael Lefler from Illinois on January 11, 2017:
I think it's because philosophy is not just about concrete logic the way math and science are. Philosophy I think is good for Fi users because it involves: - Imagining strange possibilities, thinking of what-if scenarios, like wondering how you would tell the difference between a human being and an advanced AI for example. INFPs love to use imagination in a variety of ways.
- Trying to solve our quest for meaning in life (which is emotional more than logical).
- Discussing comparative religious beliefs (again, this involves a lot of emotionally impactful concepts like death).
- Moral philosophy helps us make better moral decisions. I think choosing correct moral principles and following them correctly is important for INFPs and we don't tend to just follow orthodox opinions on the subject, preferring instead to create our own set of rules, and to do that we like being informed by philosophers.
In a way, philosophy is storytelling. They deal with metaphors a lot, like Plato's allegory of the cave. Most INFP strengths (literature, art, music) involve using metaphorical, poetic communication styles.
Also being an F does not mean someone cannot think rationally or form a worthwhile rational argument, just like saying that you're not a true introvert if you have friends or you're not really a P if you've ever planned a vacation in detail. These are tendencies and preferences, but not absolute facts.
William Ryland from Dallas, Texas on January 11, 2017:
Ditto on #10... I'm all theory and no action. Philosophy is prolly my most favorite thing ever... after naps, of course.
Katie on August 02, 2016:
I find number 9 fascinating. I was rather mean spoken as a child and looking back I wondered why. I am interested by the idea that it might be related to my personality and not just an individual problem.
I also agree with RachaelLefler though, having a similar passion for philosophy.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on August 02, 2016:
intuition does help with philosophy and theory making, but I've seen many an INFP get very overwhelmed and uncomfortable in the heat of people spouting different theories. Not so much because of theory itself, but because of people's lack of compassion and understanding. This puts the INFP in a horrid complex.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on August 02, 2016:
Glad to hear you enjoyed it!
Fido on August 02, 2016:
Number 10 is off base. Infps are very philosophical and because of extraverted intuition can be energized by discussing possibilities. They have very good imaginations and can see many sides to every issue.
Jay Ryles from UK on July 02, 2016:
Amazingly insightful. Reading this article was like having had someone in my head reading my thoughts, and someone having followed me around observing my behaviour for year and then writing this web page. It seems tremendously difficult to function in this world as an INFP. Everyone else seems to function much more easily. I've always felt 'different' and kinda alone but getting to know oneself is an amazing feeling. Thank you very much for the article. I'll bookmark it and return to it again and again no doubt.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on May 03, 2016:
Interesting... an INFP's dominate function is introverted feeling, their inferior function is extroverted thinking. If they seem close, they might be your middle functions... and then you might be an INFJ, which often gets mistyped as INFP. The real question is whether which function you feel is your bane, if it's sensing, you're an INFJ. If it's thinking... you're an INFP.
Rachael Lefler from Illinois on May 02, 2016:
I don't exactly agree with 10, maybe it's my closeness on the T/F spectrum but I love philosophy and it's one of my big passions in life. It's the more analytical numerical disciplines like math and the harder sciences that are more challenging to me.
Andrea Lawrence (author) on January 18, 2016:
Glad I can help! I studied Myers Briggs for years, and after awhile it starts to really click as to what all of it means. I find it extremely helpful to break down problems through Myers Briggs.
Bianca on January 18, 2016:
That was beautiful. Utterly speechless. These bullets are spot-on. I have been dealing with the constant battle of conformation of being an INFP. I have debating between being an ISFP, ENFP (because I am rather social), and an INFJ (because I love to help people) but this post has verified my true personality. Thank you so much and I truly appreciate this :)