How to Identify an INFJ personality

Updated on July 7, 2015
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Andrea loves to write about the zodiac, Myers Briggs, and texting. She is an expert on romance and relationships. She also has two cats.

The INFJ personality in the Myers Briggs universe makes for a great friend, lover, and parent. For those of you who don't know what INFJ stands for it's: introverted, intuition, feeling, and judging. Myers Briggs is a personality test that groups four different traits found on a spectrum into 16 different personalities. Essentially, those are on the following spectrum:

Extroverted - Introverted

Sensing - Intuition

Thinking - Feeling

Judging - Perceiving

There's a lot that can be said of this, but we are focusing on a specific personality today -- the INFJ.

The following are some tricks in case you're needing an INFJ in your life.

Reasons you want to identify an INFJ:

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1. INFJ personalities tend to have a lot of friends, more so than the usual introvert. You'll still be able to tell that they're shy or withdrawn.

2. INFJ tend to dress somewhat artsy. They put effort into the way they dress. Women may wear something floaty, flowery, long skirts, short skirts, and jewelry. I think most INFJ women have good sense for shoes. They love a variety of colors.

3. They have a calm and mysterious aura about them. They may not feel this way in their mind, but if you're around them, you might feel at ease. They tend to be reading, drinking tea or coffee, or making jokes with friends.

4. This personality is witty. They probably have a strange remark for just about anything. A lot of times they're hilarious. Think Jerry Seinfeld or Billy Crystal. An INFJ tends to have a close ENFP, a more wild Robin Williams type around them. If you can find one of those personalities, the other is probably not too far away because they make for strong friends. Partly because their senses of humor play off each other well.

5. INFJ have a lot of emotions. Remember, they are calm. They also can be hyperactive. Or a sobbing vehement mess.

6. They crave jobs in -- non for profit organizations, writing, education, counseling, music, and art. Anything that is idea motivated and creative draws in an INFJ.

7. INFJ like a variety of abstract concepts to explore. If they keep bringing up the subject of magic, conspiracy theories, psychics, personality theories, religion, philosophy, critical thinking, gender theory, queer theory, science fiction -- you likely have an INFJ or someone who would make a good friend for an INFJ.

8. This is a personality that sometimes needs to withdraw. It re-calibrates by drawing away from crowds and recognizing what are it's present friend groups. Sometimes this is a painful process for an INFJ when they have to reckon with their past and present friendships.

9. They're smart students. Expect high level grades and a busy education schedule. They tend to be goal achievers. INFJ travel with INTJ and INTP as the holy trifecta of introverted super thinkers.

10. Strong writers. Writing a paper is a piece of cake for them since they are constantly analyzing and developing new critical theory.

11. It's a personality that craves a Master's degree or higher education.

12. This is a personality that when immature can be highly manipulative and will sting you. They understand people well and sometimes get out of hand using people for their own experience or interests. Most INFJ will grow out of this and reckon with how to truly have compassion for others.

13. World travelers. This personality has bad wander-lust. They may be constantly thinking about where to go on vacation, a short term overseas mission, what are the greatest cities, etc.

14. They may have trouble communicating in some settings, but then oddly enough super shine at speaking in front of groups -- like teaching or giving a stage performance.

15. It's a personality that can come off like an "old soul."

16. This personality is full of wisdom and inspirational quotes. Likely religious.

17. INFJ has a deep love for the finer things like food, music, artistic design.

18. They may struggle with their self-confidence or self-esteem as they feel like they need to be more of a person... when they already are quite a person.

19. Strong listeners. In some situations, they will hardly speak of themselves while asking all the right questions to get you to open up.

20. There's one in just about every coffee shop.

21. They have things that are knitted. Like scarves, hats, mittens.

22. They all have a deep love of literature.

23. They tend to be pet owners. Not hoarders.

24. Not your richest of folks. They're so focused on ideas that they often neglect looking at practical matters like their budget, mowing the lawn, or spontaneous spending. They tend to be just fine at getting the bills paid for one way or another.

25. Tend to be attractive.

26. Have diehard love for their friends.

27. A personality that is focused when it comes to relationship matters. They may be wholly single, married -- or go through cycles of three sheets to the wind. Sometimes an INFJ rejects itself and goes though a phase of "I'm trying not to be as monogamous as my gut wants me to be."

28. The INFJ often seems like they have something to say... but are holding back.

29. Plays a musical instrument or used to.

30. Has dappled in studying a language.

31. Clean hair.

32. Tends to have messy desks.

33. Amazing at baking cakes.

34. Refuses to uses words and just makes sounds. Struggles to keep eye contact without explaining why.

35. They have odd rituals and preoccupations with schedules to keep them sane. They have consistent things they try to do everyday, once a week, etc. This occurs while also leaving room for spontaneous interaction.

36. This is one of the personalities that may take longer to date or holds off on marriage. They don't have the speed to get married like an ESFJ who tends to be married by its early 20s.

37. Likes physical touch more than they are letting on. They can really gage a person by how they touch their hair, arms, shoulders. A hug is revealing to an INFJ. But they don't want you to know that's often their kryptonite. They love compliments, but something about touch wakes them up out of their tendency to be in their heads. Also, they can tell if they really don't like you if you touch them in a way that rubs them wrong.

38. Many may say they're asexual. Many of them in reality just have self-control or a different way of monitoring and understanding their libido. They're in their imagination. This is a very mental creature so a sexual identification test only on physical fantasies might not make sense to them... depends on how they've built their imagination. They are screaming freaks of romance. And then probably have good, sound control of their libido. I know that's repetitive, I just want you to know they're good at keeping the volcanic libido hushed or out of sight.

39. They do lean toward the sapiosexual side, accept... looks probably do matter too. This is unfortunately one of the most, if not the most, picky personality when it comes to finding a partner. They understand social issues and people, so they're looking for the best possible option. The older they get the more they realize they're human -- also the older they get, the better the options they have around them. They may be confused as to why their romantic prospects got better at about 23 and up.

40. They enjoy a good movie.

41. They don't tend to have a high interest in sports. They'll watch it with you, but they may be daydreaming. Sports on TV that have a lot of commercial breaks are the worst for this personality. I think the best sports for the INFJ are more individualized ones, like gymnastics.

42. They're not bad at math if they can apply it to other concepts -- like religion.

43. They may have strange organizing systems in an otherwise seemingly messy home. They'll spend extra time on organizing a tea cabinet, arranging a closet by colors, leaving charts in each room for how to clean it, and they'll leave clutter piles everywhere. They've probably got boxes they keep telling themselves to empty that are full of things from eight years ago -- like postcards, certificates, and letters.

44. Have freakishly weird friendships with animals. They can make you believe they can actually talk to animals.

45. Soft spoken personality, but blunt -- and if really upset they'll be opinionated to the max.

46. All kinds of strange emotions can come up during a board game. They may make art pieces out of the game pieces. They may sing randomly. They may try to sit there quietly without revealing their plan. They may decide they don't care ,and they'll go off with some strange plan that they don't know how it's going to end... but could foil someone else just for the heck of it.

47. Great for a trivia team. Might not know a lot of questions -- hit or miss on things you wouldn't expect.

48. Bad about ghosting. Actually, not bad about ghosting. They're experts. When they know they don't need you anymore or they've hurt you, you may suddenly stop receiving communication from them. You may not be aware that this is happening. They'll do this subtly, but it is a conscious effort to move on from you one way or another. If you're in a relationship with an INFJ and they go cold, it means they've evaluated and came to a conclusion that they're life probably doesn't need you anymore because you hurt them. At this point, things are probably too late. You would need to be really sweet to them. Do not be aggressive; this will confirm whatever they are seeing -- and they'll drop you faster than you can pick up whatever nearby object and throw it to the ground. Instead be really sweet, encouraging, and bring up nostalgia -- only then you might have a chance at saving something. This tactic will throw them off. But if you aggressively chase them down -- you'll scare them. They might actually think you're abusive. They will find reasons to setup a sanctuary to be safe and away from you. Now if they're really trying to bring up something before a break up, you should listen to them carefully. This means they still solidly care about you, but if things don't change -- they may go cold. Since they are wise about people if they are talking a lot, they probably have thought about it for a long while, and have checked themselves like crazy beforehand for errors. They know their crap pretty well by this point.

49. You never want to see this personality cry. It'll make you want to cry too. It'll make you want to curl into a ball and sob till the next day.



50. This is an independent personality. They can survive without people but not like a hermit. They'll still be around people at work, etc. But they can go solo if they feel it is best for them.

51. One of the best people to date ever. They'll keep the conversation going, they'll genuinely like your company, and they love the spontaneous. Warning: it may make your head explode. Additional warning: things may move slower than you want.

52. For whatever reason -- terrible at memorizing lyrics. They're great at making up visuals for words, but terrible at memorizing them word for word.

53. That is unless they intentionally memorize all the words. When they set their minds to it, they can memorize anything. In fact, they may have not learned how to read as a kid. They probably first relied heavily on their memory.

54. Quietly competitive.

55. They all have certain pet peeves: don't disturb their sleep; don't leave dishes dirty if you live with them that you'll never clean causing them to always wash the dishes; don't be blind to the fact that they're gorgeous and you see them all the time and should probably open up your heart about it already. Also, don't be stupid. They may stare at you helplessly trying to figure out how to translate their thoughts to figure out how to help you when you've been so dumb. They'll think for you if they have to.

56. Before coming into maturity, this personality may struggle with OCD, anxiety, or sleep paralysis. There is hope that you can overcome these things with age -- that's for the INFJ folks, at least. Or you may have it following you all the time.

57. Someone who likely prays or meditates a lot.

58. Has an expansive vocabulary.

59. They have amazing lucid dreams.

60. They do like being in a homey environment.

61. They may not really want to be known for their interests, quirks, and everything else. They probably stick out like a sore thumb at times, but there's times where they are consciously trying to blend or be normal. Then they'll say something witty or start laughing out of nowhere.

62. You will probably hear them say the line, "But I didn't tell you that?"

63. Also, you might hear: "Haha, you think you know me so well? I beg to differ."

64. Likes to journal.

65. Might feel uneasy if their vertigo is set off. There's so much going on in this person's brain that I think it lends itself to motion sickness, headaches, dizziness.

66. Wishes that you liked them just as much as they like you.

67. Loves to work on giant creative projects.

68. Will seem at a great crossroads if they have to lie. They'll consider the karmic cost of it.

69. Will name random objects. For instance, a blue plate is now George.

70. They are likely to flood you with messages to then suddenly stop... and then repeat the process over and over. If you encourage the flood of messages, they'll keep going.

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        Kim 11 days ago

        Yes, animals can not speak for themselves. We may understand. I have hope that will change. A lot of injustice in the world, I hope I can can pass it on.

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        Cherry 2 weeks ago

        Boy does this describe me, most of all my kinship with animals, I know what they are thinking and I know exactly how they feel and what they are telling the world. Yes body language .. I am born people watcher with wicked intutuion and as I get older more of a recluse ... Can t really handle people much anymore ... So I don't ...

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        Kim 2 weeks ago

        Love what it says at the end of the video. “Animals need a pal to talk to”

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        Kim 2 weeks ago

        Hi Michaela,

        In reference to #44, try to look up “Dog wants a Kitty” on You Tube. It will give you a smile. Shine on.

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        michaela morgan 2 weeks ago

        we think so fast so constantly we overlook typing mistakes i meant adhd attention deficit disorder with hyperactivity . i wore out my body but i remain perky. thank you for this.. its very helpful, and i admit, i dont know everything, exactly.. sometimes, we think we do. what about.. you know, those animals we talk to? they talk back. not in words but they talk back......every y infj should have at least one animal friend...

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        Kim 2 weeks ago

        All INFJ, you are special. May not see world peace in our lifetime. Hold hands, an example is the best to pass on.

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        Kim 2 weeks ago

        Anyone a INFJ and a Virgo! Yes, Barnes and Noble was my place for sanctuary, the library.

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        michaela morgan 3 weeks ago

        it is unwise to suggest to elderly old womenwith aadd to go rock climbing or dancing we fall and break our legs. but my heart dances .the heart can always dance. i guess thats not true for the wounded .. but i do know the wounded can recover .. i did. thank you!!

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        Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

        Keep up the positive attitude! It speaks volumes to others.

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        Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

        Totally understand! Just remember, your unique personality speaks volumes and is something much needed.

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        Andrea Lawrence 3 weeks ago from Chicago

        Oh wow. Goodness, it sounds like you are very hungry for personal growth -- and that is a great place to be. Aging helps with the process of becoming a stronger INFJ, kind of like how wine gets better with age.

        I think reading as much as you can and figuring out where your shortcomings are will help you to strengthen yourself. The issue for INFJ lies in extroverted sensing. We have a hard time being present with our senses and what we are absorbing -- making certain tasks like cleaning, money saving, and not running into objects somewhat difficult. As much as learning about the wise sage material of INFJ thinkers, it is also good to get engaged in things that employ your senses and make you more present -- whether cooking, dancing, or rock climbing. Find something like this. It will help.

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        Kim 3 weeks ago

        Wow, nice to know I fit somewhere. My mother told me I was probably abductced by aliens as a child. I would always “give the shirt off my back” Never thought who would not do that? And yes, went through years of counseling, attracted anyone who was in need of love and help. So yeah! at my age, still have faith in this world. I am blessed to love my job and as corny as it sounds, love my life, job, and the people who teach me life can be tough sometimes. Am wiser, but still have faith in the world. My mother would still tell I am alien. Ha ha, to all of the INJF s our there, we have the greats standing behind us. Who would not love MLK, Nelson Mendela?

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        Erica LeHew 3 weeks ago

        This is so accurate that it is scary! I think I checked about every single box... After finding out I was an INFJ about 2 years ago, I felt so much better about my sanity! For so many years I felt that I had something wrong with me. We are truly strange creatures. Weird habits and traits, insane thoughts, and a compassion for people that can be a blessing and a curse...

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        valerie morgan 3 weeks ago

        oh my goodness, may i come live with you? please... what an amazing read.never ever have i felt so understood. you know, we take ourselves very seriously so this sort of validation and understanding feels delightful i wonder what you would say about this type who also has addhd... yeah. its wearing me out. but, stil i thrive, thank you for doing this site, this work. i never knew dr. jung or read of him but now have a jungian therapist. we have not yet discussed this . i knew after a test online that this was me, but your article is so detailed and validating, it made me even happier to be me. i am startled, though that there are so few of us. that goes with feeling believing knowing we are right about certain things like moral behaviour and living with compassion, we , i dont understand what i know in my bones other people dont know and dont feel. it drives me nuts, in fact. i get angry and judgemental. i expect people to be on their best behaviour. i expect the same or more of me. i withdraw because the complexity of human interaction drains me, and the unrelenting suffering in the world overwhelms me. i must spend some time with the works of the infj sages now and past who light the way for moralprogress in the world and for my own spiritual liberation. thank you for your work. i dont do any sort of social media but i signed up here because it seems to be a site working towards good. i support that.. thank you

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        hkaur 4 weeks ago

        Omg! .. can't agree more! ..I literally have instances for every pointer.. like every pointer.. except cakes (just cz I've never tried baking, I always wanted to though lol).. the details are indeed fascinating but scary at the same time that people can identify me now.. lol .. nevertheless, thanks for telling me that I'm normal and it's just a personality type.. all these years, I really thought that something is not right about me.. hehe!

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        Paul 4 weeks ago

        About 50% by my estimation, as for one, I don't know a single INFJ who likes compliments, as they make me feel uncomfortable and I never know what to say mostly from fear of coming across disingenuous or fake. I don't have a lot of friends, but I have a slew of acquaintances, then my "circle" and finally my "inner circle" which is about 3 people. I have an almost eidetic memory, and as for lyrics I've always memorized the ones I liked very quickly, being a musician/singer/songwriter this is almost a must anyway.

        I don't "evaluate" people, then decide they're no longer "useful" and toss them aside like trash, narcissists and sociopaths do this, not INFJ, and in fact I'm loathe to have rifts in my relationships, as they are all of equal importance to me, because they are all wonderfully unique and perfectly flawed persons, just like me.

        Anyone can talk to animals, we'll have you believing the animals talk to us.

        Myself and the other INFJ I know personally do NOT refuse to use words and in fact are all quite verbose, sometimes bordering on loquacious.

        I do appreciate some of the less common traits we possess, for instance, I am indeed an excellent cook, including cakes.

        I think you should include we practice a healthy level of self-deprecation, to the same degree we are introspective, as you said, we know all about our own crap, and unlike many, we have no problem admitting when we're wrong, and easily apologize sincerely, as we are also very empathetic souls, can't stand to hurt others, and this makes us great targets for toxic people, and they gravitate toward us, as it's pretty obvious in the first few minutes of talking to us our greatest desire is to see everyone live happy, healthy and whole lives, and we excitedly will do our part in making that a reality for others, often at the cost of self. Being the empathetic souls we are, we are often seen as weak, and though it is the case sometimes, codependent, but this is not a hard fast rule, it's just that codependents and empaths share certain traits, and have similar yet upon closer examination polar opposite behavior in our interpersonal relationships.

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        Tracy 4 weeks ago

        I just ticked every single box. I had no friends at school because I didn't think anybody liked me. I married a narcissist for 23 years and am only just now realising who I really am. I am a INFJ and that is not strange or disordered it is beautiful and I am going to start living and loving myself for who I am.

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        Cindy 5 weeks ago

        This is so ridiculously on point that it’s scary. Wow! To think that many years ago i actually thought something was wrong with me. This was because I had never encountered anyone like me so I thought I had some sort of personality disorder, only to find it so strangely comforting that someone gets me-other INFJs. Of course it could only be expected that another INFJ would get it. Ni is amazing.

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        Norway 5 weeks ago

        I am actually crying with laughter. This is horrifically accurate, and it's pretty terrifying. It's super weird that I'm so predictable...

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        Turiya 5 weeks ago

        Can all of us be INFJ when it is only 1% of the population?

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        Yanni 6 weeks ago

        Laughed at #42

        And damn. I feel like a telepath has been spying on me and wrote this article.

        Also sounds like you've dated/been friends with an INFJ for a long time. Or are you one?

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        Andrea Lawrence 7 weeks ago from Chicago

        Glad to hear that!

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        kimber007 8 weeks ago from Somewhere...

        Excellent and on point.

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        Anna 8 weeks ago

        Ugh, I've read a ton and I still can't understand wether I'm an INFJ or an INFP. I feel instinctively closer to INFJ, but some apparently core aspects don't fit. Honestly, INFJs kind of seem cooler then I am.

        Could it be my ADHD messing things up?

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        Mishka 8 weeks ago

        ...and the flood of oddly weird objects that I’ve named throughout my lifetime floods back into my memories...like old friends that I lost on my way here. I am in fact a complete weirdo from the land of weirding weirdos.

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        Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

        You're welcome! Glad you enjoyed it.

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        Jessica 2 months ago

        Incredibly insightful and accurate. Thank you.

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        Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

        Those INTP and INTJ folk are pretty great for INFJ, I must say.

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        bm 2 months ago

        100% Accurate, so well done.

        9. They're smart students. Expect high level grades and a busy education schedule. They tend to be goal achievers. INFJ travel with INTJ and INTP as the holy trifecta of introverted super thinkers.

        11. It's a personality that craves a Master's degree or higher education.

        These hit home, my best friends are INTJ and INTP, and its not a question of if I'm going to do a masters its just a question of when. :-)

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        emma 2 months ago

        my mouth fell open many times while reading this. feels like someone cut my brain open, and dumped the contents of it onto this website. absolutely amazing. reading this made me very happy :)) feeling very understood.

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        Your Fellow INFJ 2 months ago

        I feel like someone observed me and put it all my behaviors in one post

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        Patti H 2 months ago

        Accurate.

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        Andrea Lawrence 2 months ago from Chicago

        Goodness. I'm a little disturbed that sleep paralysis is an INFJ thing.

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        Faith 2 months ago

        That sleep paralysis is on point... and everything else lol.

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        Zaida 3 months ago

        Like 99% of these are me! And I always thought ,that I thought about everything to much and I was crazy ,but nope I'm just an INFJ ..I feel better lol

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        Lovely 3 months ago

        These are pretty much all me except..... I love one single sport.

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        Emama 3 months ago

        Oh, how is most of this so true???

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        Ginger 3 months ago

        Nailed it!

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        Teng 3 months ago

        This feels like a secret support group for INFJs

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        Charmaine 3 months ago

        Hahahahahah! I have been laughing all through. This is sooo me!

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        miestory 4 months ago

        OHMYGOD DID I WRITE THIS? This is like, my biography summarized in an article. But seriously pretty accurate *two thumbs up*

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        Nicole 4 months ago

        Excellent. Very accurate. I laughed out loud at #5... because it's true.

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        Samantha 4 months ago

        I have been trying to find my true self, and when I heard that I was an INFJ, i obviously immediately had to look it up...and it describes me better than I could myself!

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        Annie 4 months ago

        Proud to be an INFJ, article is pretty acurate. Something describes me properly after a long time.

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        Linda 4 months ago

        I'm an INFJ and most of this is so like me. The one that is least like me is the comment about not being able to memorize lyrics. I sometimes feel like a walking catalog of lyrics, some from 20-30 years ago and some even from childhood.

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        Laura 4 months ago

        Yep, pretty accurate!

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        Hannah 5 months ago

        Some of this is right on point for me. Others...not so much.

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        Kristin 5 months ago

        This is pretty accurate. Only a few things were off but that's just because of how I grew up. INFJ approved!

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        Wonderer 5 months ago

        This definitely hit the nail on the head for me!

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        Carrie 5 months ago

        This is quite accurate!

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        Terree 5 months ago

        Very thorough! I am INFJ.

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        Linda 6 months ago

        I'm an INFJ and most of these are so me.

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        Nyamwathi 6 months ago

        INFJ just reading through to confirm.

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        Suzanne 6 months ago

        INFJ here, now act surprised. :P I don't dress artsy. I wear what I have and as long as it covers my body I'm good! Same for shoes. I just don't care about such things - anything materialistic, really. My motto is - if it isn't useful, beautiful, or joyful, get rid of it. That goes for clothes, possessions and PEOPLE. :) I don't have a lot of friends but the few I have I am very close to. I am somewhat of a hermit. OTHER THAN THOSE THINGS - yea. Though I have never named an inanimate object. I name spiders, lizards, and squirrels though...

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        Jim 6 months ago

        That was hilarious, because it is so true! INFJ here.

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        Nan V. 6 months ago

        I think I'm an INFJ , I don't think I'm a rare personality...

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        Gabriela 7 months ago

        I am completely amused by the fact the vast majority of people reading this are just INFJs checking the accuracy.

        I'd agree with most of it too.

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        Jo 7 months ago

        So true!

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        Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

        Glad to hear it!

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        Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

        INFP and INFJ are fairly similar. It can be difficult to tell the slight differences. INFP is almost like an inside out INFJ. Its dominate trait is introverted-feeling... where INFJ has introverted-intuition.

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        Astra 8 months ago

        Well I identified myself that I'm an INFP but this is so related to me like more than 90%.

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        Shay 8 months ago

        Wow, this is so me! Holy cow

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        Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

        Sometimes INFJ isn't sure how to explain what is going on in their heads and reverts to other less communicable devices. Plenty of INFJ are thinking in visuals and sounds, but don't know how to translate it into words. Sometimes an INFJ becomes overwhelmed by the information they are absorbing in eye contact, so they look somewhere else to keep mental focus.

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        Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

        We are glad you have found us!

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        Pea in a Pod 8 months ago

        Oh boy... :D

        I've found my people!

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        Jaf 8 months ago

        Wondering about this-say more? Typo?

        34. Refuses to uses words and just makes sounds. Struggles to keep eye contact without explaining why.

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        Anica 8 months ago

        It's a pretty good article, I even laughed at some of the "yep, that's me" parts. But I do have a few things I'd like you to consider....

        Question #21 should be removed as it weakens your "authority" on the topic. It comes across as if you went to every INFJ and asked if him/her owned such things (but we all know you didn't). Some people live in places where it is too warm for winter clothes, and others don't necessarily like the "knitted" version of winter attire.

        Question #31 is completely irrelevant. You must consider the fact that when generally speaking of INFJs, you are representing all 2% of 7,500,000,000. That's about 150,000,000. And if you realize that most countries are 3rd world countries, then you would not assume that ever INFJ has clean hair.

        I'm gonna let #33 slide because it explains some things

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        tayra 8 months ago

        but iam actually attracted to other people though i am not in a realtionship but i feel like i won't be a sexual ..but a i think i would prefer showing love and interest by both soul and body yes soul is a must .... but is the asexual thing crucial in infj personality ???except for that all is in me .

        oh one more question i find myself always giving excuses about my situation like i always need to expalin my self to others it is something very tiring and a stopped it recently but it bothered me alot ... ,,,also i really care about whom i with like alot but also i dont like to be inferior to other at all like i want to be the best of my friends (no one is better ) i donno if it is something i gained from my family or in my personality

        again sorry for bothering u :D

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        Andrea Lawrence 8 months ago from Chicago

        Asexuality has to do with a low sex drive or even low interest in sexuality. You easily can be celibate. You may find you are rarely attracted to other people. You may also find you are uncertain whether you are straight or gay because your sex drive isn't as high as a priority as maybe others. You still might want romance and a partnership, but being turned on is elusive to you. Doesn't mean your body doesn't work. You may find you don't want to open up sexually and till you have more emotions. Since sexuality isn't always concrete, the answer can come with having a few things put together to help make it clear.

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        Tayra 8 months ago

        Can I ask you something ... it is about the writing thing (I actually can't write well may be it is not my thing but I agree with you Iam not a talker like not at all more of a listener although people actual say that I talk quite well ..not that much anyway ... and the asexual thing although I didn't quite get into a relationship but I do like physical touch as hugging I actually like people to express their feeling to me every day saying that they love i feel like I give love hella more than I take .. but I tend to think of. The opposite sex so what is the meaning of asexual I don quite get it .. or may be u mean that we don't give it our all until we completely sure about the other partner ...... sorry to bother u

        Every thing else was quite on point Ian only asking because Ian finding myself weird even weirder that infj like I don't like to let my emotion to the surface and so on

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        Iffat 8 months ago

        Wow. Its eerie reading about myself and thinking "am I really like this"

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        chintya huanguos 8 months ago

        it is amazing to see many facts about infj here. I wonder if most of the infjs out there suffer from perfectionist-procrastination loop? It is friggin frustrating to put my brilliant ideas (i think) to work. sigh.

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        Valancy 8 months ago

        Wow, i would say 90% accurate lol. You forgot to mention how most infjs are more outgoing online than irl tho.

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        Miri 8 months ago

        spot on. I name random pigeons and other animals all the time

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        Sladjana 8 months ago

        Some 10 years ago, I was ESTJ.. but that was a test taken for/and related to work, after completed training for a management position. A year ago, I took the test again, as a personal interest and got INFJ.. and yes, I could finally see that someone understands and I am not the only "odd" one around :) I was quite relieved. Looking back into my childhood, I understand why so often I felt awkward.. Many of the points are correct, especially 48. When I stop the communication, it's already too late to save the friendship. Also, nr. 8 is a must for me and my mental/emotional health - I need to withdraw in order to recharge batteries. Nice article, thanks :)

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        Genevieve 9 months ago

        Wow, it is great to read something so accurate about myself. Now that I've finally found out that I am an INFJ, everything makes SO much sense... Thank you!

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        Ray 10 months ago

        woahh this is too accurate. How did you do it?

        Awesome Job. But seriously how?

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        Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

        From what I can tell, with Myers Briggs is you can trace it back to childhood. A long time ago, I believe I read somewhere that you can usually spot the E-I and P-J tendencies / leanings, and then the other spectrums start to become more noticeable with age. Since so much of this theory plays off the functions, it would make sense that it's already there and we all discover it as we age. It's very hard to create functions that are not your own. Possibly to play with, but I don't know if they would get integrated into the subconscious. Usually, INFJ will come across to other children as odd because introverted intuition is a really rare gifting and that's their trump card, so to speak. INTJ and INFJ have it, but they both those are rare. You may have one kid per class or so that are an INTj or INFj. Other kids won't understand how you're quickly making conclusions, and it'll baffle teachers too. As insightful as INFJ is with people, a lot of people can't do that back for them.

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        PowerMechGuy 12 months ago

        Thank you for making this. I don't really know how to put it. I mean it's just so weird to find out there are other people to think like you. I'm still trying to figure out how I became an INFJ. But either way, I guess I'm me for a reason.

        This was the best summation of INFJ character traits I've read thus far. And I've read a great deal...

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        Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

        Thank you. :)

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        Idk. 12 months ago

        Best article ever. Mindblowing.

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        H-Man 12 months ago

        everything was mostly if not always accurate for me, especially the lucid dreaming, and day dreaming part. The average human is in their head for about 30% of the time their awake but for me it's more like I'm in my head for 95% percent of the time I'm awake.

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        Kcors 12 months ago

        Hahahaha!!! I was laughing all through out while reading this! Amazing work! Ha!

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        Alexandra 12 months ago

        Yeah, that's so me.

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        Jayden 12 months ago

        I agreed to almost everything on this lol

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        Andrea Lawrence 12 months ago from Chicago

        I hope my insight is helpful.

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        Mae 12 months ago

        This is so accurate; I find it scary.

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        Lynn 13 months ago

        Most of these are spot on for me, thanks. Nice when someone gets it.

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        Andrea Lawrence 14 months ago from Chicago

        99.9% is good enough for me. ;)

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        nadrah 14 months ago

        i laughed reading this! lol 99.9% correct

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        What they mean by "weird" and "not normal" is that you're completely awesome and that they are baffled by your seemingly wonderful existence that seems like it has flown out of a fairy tale book.

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        You have arrived in a safe place where you can be understood. Welcome to the world of INFJ!

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        I'm glad to give relief! :)

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        KK 16 months ago

        Oh I love this! What a relief to read this.

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        New2this 16 months ago

        Great article. Finally someone understands me. Lol

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        Ethereal 16 months ago

        This is so painfully accurate, it hurts. I'm often called weird and 'not normal' because of my personality type; which has brought on anxiety and other mental health illnesses ~

        I wish INFJs were more understood.

        Thank you for writing this !

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        Andrea Lawrence 16 months ago from Chicago

        Do you feel more led by intuition or emotion?

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        Jennifer 16 months ago

        And to think, as an INFP, this describes me 100%. I would always test INXJ, but upon enough comparisons to Maria Sound of Music, and poor executive function, I claimed INFP. Who knows! The two are often confused and I claimed INFJ for years.

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        Andrea Lawrence 17 months ago from Chicago

        It is often is the choice of poison for an INFJ. It helps get rid of the trace.

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        Eli 17 months ago

        Pretty good list. I identify with about 90% of the points. Love to ghost ;)

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