This article explains what happens after harassing texts are reported to police or other law enforcement. The first article in this series provides detailed information about how to report harassing texts to law enforcement. This article is the second part in the series.
After you have properly prepared your text message harassment evidence and submitting it to law enforcement, you may be expecting to receive an immediate response from police due to the pain and suffering that you have been caused. However, this typically is not the case at all. In this article we will cover the processes that you need to be prepared for, providing you followed my instructions in the first part of this article. If you did not follow my directions on reporting harassment to police, your results could be completely different.
1. Text Message Harassment Evidence Submitted
One thing you need to realize is that what you have seen on television is not reality. No team of sexy female and ripped male detectives are going to ponder over your evidence in a sleek and stylish boardroom. Nobody is going to be drawing up poster board size charts of your evidence to share with their fellow law enforcement officers and nobody is going to rush to aid you and your family. The only exception to this is if you’re a celebrity and/or your case is newsworthy. And even if you feel your case is worth of being on the news, it most likely won't be unless it involves a celebrity, since the police are already overloaded with crimes of “bigger importance” (in their eyes). Sorry, the truth sucks sometimes.
After your evidence has been submitted it should go to a detective. Do not mistake a detective for a police officer, as they are two completely different roles. A police officer does not have the capabilities of a detective. A detective is a “promotion” from "officer." A detective is able to overstep jurisdiction boundaries to inquire about information. So, with that being said, it really is important to take your case to a person who can truly investigate the case.
So let’s say you did properly submit your evidence and it did go to a detective. You can now expect that they will review your text message harassment evidence.
2. Review of Your Harassment Evidence
The “review process” totally depends on where you live and the person working your case. States like Michigan are far behind in terms of Internet/cyber/“virtual" crime. States like California are on top of their laws and continually adapt to the changing times. While it would be nice to be able to expect that your detective will do something promptly about your harassment, it may not be the reality.
Common Mistakes in Harassment Reports
A review of your case will start off with a look at the evidence you provided. Keep in mind: the detective you are dealing with could be unfamiliar with technology. Unfortunately, there are no current requirements for law enforcement to be computer savvy or have a thorough understanding of Smartphones, IP addresses, Facebook and so on, despite the ever-increasing amount of harassment and stalking occurring using these devices.
Let’s say you have a somewhat up-to-date detective who has the time to invest into trying to figure things out: He or she is going to glance everything over to ensure it makes sense. If you are leaving out valuable details or if things just don’t “add up,” the detective is going to take your case less seriously. Here are examples of what can lead to this situation:
- If someone is harassing you and you continually responded, then you have “fueled the fire.” If you responded with anything other than “Cease Harassing Me,” then you are being a catalyst to the drama. If you do not want to be harassed, then do not respond to the texts. Yes, it hurts badly to have your children called names, but if you text back to defend your children, you are not demanding that the harassment cease. Instead, you are making another attack more likely by showing interest and no fear of the individual harassing you.
- Another major error is leaving out critical details. If you “forgot” to include the page of evidence showing that you spent two hours bombarding the text-message-harasser with texts of your own, you might as well scrap your whole case because you are just as guilty, even if you were provoked and reached your breaking point.
- Additionally, if your evidence is not complied properly, the detective is going to have a near-impossible time trying to navigate it.
3. Getting the “Full Story”
Once again, we have to set aside the crime shows we see on television and look at reality. The detective will not be kicking in the harassers front door and pinning him/her to the ground to fight for the cell phone located in their pocket.
Instead, the detective will either call or possibly (if you are lucky) show up at the culprits door. Most likely they will just call and speak to the harasser over the phone and record his/her “statement.” It is also most likely that the harasser is going to throw the ball back into your court and blame you. If you genuinely are at fault for playing into the harassers game, the entire case will be written off as a “common dispute,” meaning neither party is right or wrong because both parties fed the harassment game.
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4. Detective Decides What Can Be Done
Another common misconception is that the person filing a complaint always gets to decide whether to press charges or not. Have you ever watched (or been to) real court? In this type of situation, an individual doesn’t press charges. The state presses charges if the case is deemed to be something the prosecutor wants to be pursue.
In the event that your text message harasser has sent you death threats or threatened to bomb your vehicle, and then two days later your vehicle is bombed, it is very possible that criminal charges will be pressed, but you will not actually be the one pressing them.
If the detective decided there is nothing that can be done, they will likely just return your evidence.
If your evidence is returned to you and you are told there is nothing that can be done, do not stop striving for justice.
TEEKAY on February 27, 2020:
I was staying with my boyfriend he once beat me up and I ended up have a miscarriage and he came and apologies and I forgave him so after a month he left his phone went to his friends and his phone receiving a notification and I opened it. it was a girl saying that "I want my phone your phone police took it" I was very shocked that it maybe possible that am staying with a criminal.
so I called her with my phone wanting to hear move because it's clear that I don't know this guy very well, so she said he's my boyfriend and we exchanged phones to police tracked the phone that I was using and took it, they said that it was stolen.
so please tell him I want my phone and good luck with having him as your boyfriend.
I was shocked and wasn't fighting her so she told me more about him and what he did to her. so Mr boyfriend came back and I started asking him but in a polite way of manner and he didn't give a damn about explaining he just said you know everything right so why do you have to ask me!! I kept quite but irritated because he didn't tell me about his girlfriend the only person I know it's him baby mama who passed on last year early. so I called back the girl telling the that your boyfriend is denying everything and guess what after I hang up, I went outside to get some fresh air and when I came back he was gone and took my phone with him so that he can transfer some cash in his account because he's an idiot and he doesn't work I was the one feeding and paying rent for him and now it's month end and he took my phone and my whole pay.i cant even pay rent and buy food and when am calling he doesn't pick up, I don't know what to do
Mike Napoli on February 26, 2020:
If I threatened someone by text message how long can they put that over my head how long is it good for
ZZzzz on November 20, 2019:
The guy I saw only once, talked for a month only on the phone, started threatening me that he will reveal all my “dirt” (I don’t have any, but he is a real charming sociopath, that can make up anything and people can believe him) I blocked him everywhere 2 months ago because he was sending me ridiculous texts, doing gaslighting etc. When he was blocked everywhere he would leave voicemails (blocked people can leave voicemails which are going to a blocked folder) about me spying on him in instagram creating fake profiles (which I have never done) and if I will not stop he will reveal all my secrets and all my dirt, he doesn’t know anything but I’m scared he can make up smth and everyone will believe him..I’m scared he can hurt me physically too even if he didn’t say it in these voicemails, but he is sociopath..what should I do?..I don’t know his last name, address, DOB, how can I get an order of protection? I’m constantly scared now
Erica S on October 29, 2019:
Some of the comments are off and on. First of all if you love yourself you will not tolerate any nonsense like threats, calling 100 times saying abnormal things and involving your family. That is crossing the line and any person with common sense know better to even call someone phone like that it’s ridiculous. The person that is even saying negative things calling you names obviously don’t love themselves enough to focus on themselves. Everything is a reflection of who they are and how they feel about themselves. They are completely miserable and show signs of a narcissist and sociopath and need a reality check real quick and you shouldn’t have to live in fear or even get harassed by someone that is not wanted. Everybody deserves to be happy and hopefully one day they’ll be happy too. So my answer is yes love yourself and protect your energy at all cost. Shut em down
Teri on September 05, 2019:
Text and phone harassment from an ex? Really? Unless they are threatening you and/or constantly using other phone no#, just block them. Otherwise, you are thriving off the attention. I know. I do it to my ex bf but he won’t block me. So obsessive heart broke me keeps thinking there’s hope. Just MAYBE this next text will do it. Yea. Stupid. Still stupid as of today. Good god I need to let him go. :( What a dumb relationship. But then again...... I’d better check to see if he responded. Lol
chloe on September 04, 2019:
hi I been harassed by young man called norman masson not only recordings rude messages and harassing my mum if this can be look in to it be great his it 29 years old he lives in Aberdeen
yUmumgay on August 15, 2019:
I totaly agree with ZombieGoreGasm
ZombieGoreGasm on August 07, 2019:
Some of these comments on here are so stupid that I can’t even believe the person posted them. Most sound like foreigners and children. “Miss morales is mean to me” dude really? Grow up. Some of you on here are ridiculous. If someone texted you one time and you were that traumatized that they need to be arrested, you need help. Y’all are the reason that no one takes cyber harassment seriously. When you get harassed for 2 years straight and the person keeps making new profiles to harass you, demand sex, send you porn, and then escalates to calling you literally 100 times back to back, makes threats about murdering you and sends you detailed messages about how he wants to rape and slaughter your children all while stalking your house and sending you pictures of your home, your children, and you he took while following you, then you can get on here and cry about feeling harassed and being afraid. Some of you have no idea what true stalking is and how it feels to be terrorized.
Donna Gould on July 29, 2019:
Why won't the police help me stop somebody from harassing me, family & friends? I live at 150- 55 14th Road Whitestone, N.Y. 11357. PLEASE HELP!!!
Cesar Rivera on July 15, 2019:
I don’t understand these people today that can’t take shit they put them selves in and then you texted them over and over again and they get mad and say they are going to report you like grow up and get a life and don’t wast the cops time like I mean you are the one that put your self there in the first place person
Courtney Briggs on June 29, 2019:
Anyone calling the cops over harrassment is a lame. Grow up. Bigger crimes are happinging and yet people are worried about who called or texted!! Wow its called BLOCKED try it out sometime. Man up and call the copa for a good reason not some dumb ass oh i got a text from my ex i better call thecops, like really dude.
Victor moreno on June 21, 2019:
I seek help i get constant texts harrasing me and extorsionating me for cash please i need help i get treats agains my life and my family
People are taking my accounts away from me on June 20, 2019:
Hi my name is Teresa Faith Cusimano. Im getting my accounts taking away from me. And my cell phone as well. It needs to stop. I cant use my cell phone to get an new yahoo account.
Teresa Faith Cusimano
Coolstory1212 on February 23, 2019:
hello my names ryan so lol im a man and im 20 i have a situation just likes yours but really iv done nothing wrong i was cheated on by my sugnificint other and she tryed geting harrsment charges on me i did not thretn her or ant thing just kept asking why she did it and wasnt going to stop until i got a text back why she did it and now i have harrsment charges for being a polite loveing person so next time you press charges think twice
jennyfromthabay on February 05, 2019:
What if you are arrested on a warrant for false charges of harassment that was already served on your husband for the same crime that was dismissed in court? The cop who took me in let me look at the warrant again and it was a blurry copy that had a name scratched out and mine written on top.
There is a cop here in this small town who hates my husband, my husband doesn't remember him too much, just that the guy went to high school with my stepdaughter, who is 26.
We have pending charges already for what the cop originally set us up for (planting evidence), and while in court for this, my lawyer tells me I am about to be re-arrested on charges in another county! For texting an ex-employee of mine! This text simply asked him why he had lied about me and got me fired. I genuinely wanted to know, I was sad because we were close friends. I said I heard he was the one who got me fired, but that if it wasn't him, then I wish him the best and he will do a good job taking over the store. I deleted his number after that.
An hour later we get a call from the PD saying that my former employer called police saying I had threatened him and kept texting and calling. But all PD said is to just don't go by the place of business and no contact with anybody there. Never heard from him again. Now, 6 month later, I am in court and next thing I know, I'm getting sent to another county on a $500 cash bond. This makes no sense. And today going to court for the harassment, I find out it's going to be continued and there are other new charges. I do not have a record, I am a housewife/college student, and I take care of my grandbaby primarily. I feel like I am in the twilight zone, because I believe this small town here (and I am not from this area or state) has a creepy set up going on, and everyone is ignoring it. It feels unreal, and I am terrified what I will be charged with next. I know this is way off the subject, but I am desperate for advice from ANYONE who has any advice at all. Please help!
Vs on February 05, 2019:
I report my husband's ex wife because she's been texting me and my family since 2015. I did a mistake last year and i reply one of her messages but after i regret and i send her one last message asking her to leave me and my family live in peace. She just texted me again. Can i file for harassment? Or because i answered one time i cannot proceed? I am tired of this... help.
wondering about restraining order on September 04, 2018:
how to stop passave aggressive harrasment from a daugther and an exwife., daily text messages about my girlfriend and the girls we are racing, statements that my girlfriend is a low life from another country who is nothing, how her family comes from nothing and my daugther is so much better and perfect that my girlfriend., that i drink too much and i am incapable of runing my own life, daily texting like 70 or 80 text from the same person. for starters
P on August 24, 2018:
I am being harassed by my
Son father daughters and cheats and i am sober mom takeinh care ofour son has autism spectrum disorder
My husband's daughter told me to die
Djdjdjdjjjx on August 13, 2018:
Going to leave names out, but I am going to court for a situation where I’ve been accused of terrorism over text. May I justify I haven’t actually done anything but someone took my words I it of context and the detective in my county found it worthy of a report, also I was 16 at the time, currently 17. I’m going rock say this now, if someone is threatening you, you’re easily able to make a case. Just look at what is happening to me. I’m going tomorrow’s but I think I just get a probation because I’m pleading guilty. It’s better than having multiple cases for something so pathetic. But I might get nothing since the evidence is literally me calling someone a slut””””” (I was joking btw)
Bart on August 12, 2018:
I have a family member that dislikes our current president and continually group texts all other family members with complaints.
A group text harassment story on nightly news needs to be aired that it is illegal and reputation or good standing character of the perpetrator is at risk. Somehow I don' think it will happen because nightly news seems to be trying to promote division.
Xxxxx on July 23, 2018:
I met someone online it started of great then he wanted me to leave my job and my life behind he made so many lies like he was dying and he had so many chest pains but he wanted me to marry him .he also told he got a nurse done for hassling him now he is gonna marry her but still keeps texting me I've blocked his number but I'm scared is this a police matter
? on June 21, 2018:
Ok I meet some one on Facebook and I was going though a bad time with my husband well I only talk to this person for a week and told him I going to stop talking to you I am working things out with my husband now that guy keeps treating me that he gonna kill me and my kids I block him and every thing but he keeps message me from different emails and calling Private I still have not told me husband about this and I deleted the message what can I do
Cayden on June 08, 2018:
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Elizabeth on May 20, 2018:
Hi my name is Elizabeth Sanchez miss morales looks at me like she had a problem with me also she looks at me nasty way miss chavez scratched me also miss morales and miss chavez are bad teacher I feel like I got molested by miss morales and miss chavez there both make fun of me I how to Joe baca middle school miss morales insults me miss morales talks crap to me
Girl on fire on April 17, 2018:
hi is anyone can help me my ex keep threatening me because when i come here in sg he bought for me the ticket amd now we breakup he's asking the money and i can't able to pay for it and now he's threatening me that he will send my naked picture to all my friends and family actually i don't know about this picture but he stolen shot on me while am naked
please help me i don't want to destroy my reputation and why should i oay?he also used my body his stupidi!
Kevin caudill on March 30, 2018:
I have been threatened for my life over itunes they told me they were going to kill me what should i do i have evidence
Anonymous on March 22, 2018:
Will the authority contact the harrasser via email too? Person I bothered told I was harrassing and said she reported and I wish to know if I'm in trouble or not.
Covfefe on February 21, 2018:
I keep getting text messages that read, "covfefe."
Anyomnous on January 18, 2018:
My ex boyfriend filed a restraint order on me I admit I did keep contacting him because I found out he gave me herpes I have text messages with him responding back to me asking me to put money inside his account if I was harassing why even respond of course I'm gonnna keep contacting u until I get through to u as to what u did now he's dating a new girl off a dating site n I can bet he didn't tell her he have herpes which he told me after the fact that had it I'm disgusted Been together for 3 years
Anonymous on January 09, 2018:
I started talking to a friends ex boyfriend and refuses to have a serious relationship so he's harrassing me calling me a whore bitch etc. And trying to break up a 20 year or so relationship with my friend. He's taking pictures of me and my apartment and gave them to his ex to start a fight with the 2 of us I had know ideal he had taken theses pictures. I blocked his number and messeges but my phone can show the block messeges he has sent he won't stop texting me.
John on December 27, 2017:
I recieved 2 text yesterday. One called me a whore and another a neuscance. Nothing threatening. All I know so far is that it's a fake number. I haven't gotten anything else. Will the police even bother tracking the person down? I feel bullied.
Anonymous on December 27, 2017:
The laws ought to be changed in order so that the laws state and rule that if you do not want someone to contact you, you must tell the person so directly instead of (1) reporting the person to the police and/or (2) having someone contact the person on your behalf. Reporting a person who is not out to harm you and has never threatened you to the police is despicable and having someone contact the person on your behalf instead of you yourself contacting the person directly is extremely rude. Also, you ought to be required (a) to state the reason why you no longer want anything to do with the person even if it was you who initiated email or other contact with the person in the first place, (b) to prove that the CIA did not brainwash you and turn you against the person, that your father did not order you to stop contacting the person or else your father will kick you out of his home and make you homeless, and that you are not subjected to any other form of duress whatsoever but that you made the decision to stop having anything to do with the person and/or that you want the person to stop contacting you out of your own free will, and (c) to tell the person how is the person supposed to know whether or not you changed your mind and decided to have something to do with the person and/or allow the person to send you email and/or in any other way to contact you, for the person is not a mind reader. The law also must require that peace be made between all people who have ever contacted each other through email and/or any other means.
Please create and pass a law that makes it illegal for the police to keep files on people who are not out to harm anybody and have never threatened anybody.
In addition, people who are not out to harm anybody and have never threatened anybody should not be jailed, arrested, or in any other way punished. The laws ought to be changed so that if someone sends you several emails but you do not reply to any of the emails but you do not tell the person who sent you the emails to stop contacting you, the sender of the emails cannot be imprisoned, arrested, or in any other way punished. If you do not want someone to contact you, you ought to be required to tell the person so directly instead of (1) reporting the person to the police and/or (2) having someone contact the person on your behalf. Reporting a person who is not out to harm you and has never threatened you to the police is despicable and having someone contact the person on your behalf instead of you yourself contacting the person directly is extremely rude. It thus ought to be illegal for the police to keep files on harmless people, for this violates people's privacy and gives them an unjustified bad reputation.
Furthermore, imprisoning, arresting, and/or in any other way punishing harmless people diverts police manpower to the wrong person, thus making it impossible for the police to protect people from those people who are actually dangerous. It is thus wise to make peace between people who have ever contacted each other through email or any other means instead of punishing harmless people.
anon. on November 24, 2017:
so i had an affair with this older male when i was with my ex boyfriend and i understand it wasn't right and i pretty much got myself into this... but now i'm in a really good relationship and he somehow popped back into my presence and is trying to manipulate my ex boyfriend into something he knows nothing about. i have told my boyfriend the truth about him being one i had a little thing with in the past and he believes me which isnt the bad part, but he is trying to tell him things about my past and we did together and i'm pretty sure trying to harass his way into breaking me and my boyfriend up. is this actually considered a type of harassment ?
Ask him on November 15, 2017:
I have been stalked and harassed for almost two years now, the police are not skilled in this area and it is very frustrating. I am hoping the loser is caught very soon. He's only called me 6x so far today, slow day.
Ha on November 10, 2017:
My account got hacked and someone sexually harassed my friends
GMa on November 09, 2017:
I received a inappropriate text and thought is was some one else. When I found out who it was I decided to not press charges but it was out of my hand. It’s still going to court. Does this mean the state picked this up.
Annomous on October 26, 2017:
I had an affair during a horrible time in my marriage, now the guy is threatening to put pictures all over the internet and send them to my husband. What can I do?
Hhah on October 16, 2017:
I’m being accused of sending text messages and calls to my husbands ex ,the detective now wants to speak with me but did tell me the calls where not traced from my phone number he just needs to speak with me cuz she believes it’s me , I have had issues with this girl from the get go . Why does the detective want to speak with me if the calls are not trased to my number ?
Oli on October 08, 2017:
I started dating this guy, a coupke weeks into it he got some traumatic news, which resulted in him shutting everyome out of his life including myself. I had a hard time dealing with it. I received a phone call at my work in which a man was asking questions regarding my boyfriend. Proceeding to tell me to stay away from him. I thought it was my boyfriends way of no longer wanting me in his life. When questioned, my boyfriend said it was not him. The next day i tried to just start over and he said it was over. I went to his house pounding on his door ringing the doorbell etc. He called the police. I have since discovered that it was a client of mine sending him and i messages. He did this to make sure he was no longer in my life thinking id want him. Well it worked, he dumped me. And Im left to find out who this person is. Do i file a police report? C an they tracl who he is when the number i call is suspended. He ruined my relationship and im devastated
anonymous in NC on August 16, 2017:
I texted my friend a few times before learning that she had changed her phone number. The out-of-character (cold and curt) replies I received before knowing it was not her tipped me off that I should find out if she did, in fact, have a new phone number. I switched my communication to the correct phone number for my friend as soon as I got her new number.
Then I received a text message with a picture of male genitals from the stranger using my friend's old phone number.
I believe this to be a crime. The individual who sent the photo knew that I did not know who was on the other end of the phone number. It was unwanted visual sexual assault. I called the police department and their advice was to block the phone number and not engage. Duh.
But what of the crime? Shouldn't there be a channel through which to report (and expect follow-through) for this sort of thing? I believe that text messaging /social media / cyber behavior should be expected to comply with the laws of real-life interpersonal interactions.
Anonymous on August 11, 2017:
A girl who no one knows the name of had been brainwashing my now boyfriend for 9 months, I had been his friend for a while until he I realized how good he was to her and how he didn't deserve to be treated like shit. He finally realized when me and him started getting closer, we talk everyday. She wouldn't text him for a week or so and had been telling him to let go of her because she wants to kill herself, she even stooped down so low as to telling him her dad beats her when we heard him ask in the background of a chat call, "What do you want at the store Honey?" before she hung up. He finally got tired of it I told him he needed to tell her how he felt and to leave her before he got anymore depressed than he already was because of her. He finally did and that day we got together, we're still together now and that was around May 20th. I would like to know if she can do anything about me telling her to keep my name out of her mouth and that I'd make sure the whole time she says bad shit about me that I'd have an issue with it. She has harassed me and him for these past few months with accounts on a game telling ME to "Kill myself". Yet she thinks because of the bad things we said about her because they were true, that she would get anywhere knowing we live no where near her. Is there anything she can do with false screenshots hiding the rest of the chat?
Tessa on July 30, 2017:
Well Jose Reyes keeps texting me a lot and calling me a lot to and he is Harassing me by calling me with different numbers to
Anonymous on June 24, 2017:
My ex friend used to message my husband and I trying to get us to separate. And after I had blocked her on all forms of communication she got a hold of his number and started harassing him. If I threatened her in self defense does that put me in the wrong?
Kelly Krause on June 14, 2017:
When filing the evidence, what jurisdiction should you contact? Say the person lives in another state?
kailey on June 06, 2017:
I have been bullyed bye a 77 year old and i text her saying that she will be bit in the but for what she done and i and told her that i will luve on and when ahe dies that it will be over and she called cls they done nothing and i am afred of her pushing charges can she and i even said rhis is not a treat that i have every law to tell her i i feel
Name on May 06, 2017:
Is it the same for minors?
Anonymous on April 12, 2017:
I like to report my ex who keep on texting me about nonsense text he won't quit texting me