What Happens After Harassing Texts Are Reported to Police

Updated on March 22, 2017

This article explains what happens after harassing texts are reported to police or other law enforcement. The first article in this series provides detailed information about how to report harassing texts to law enforcement. This article is the second part in the series.

After you have properly prepared your text message harassment evidence and submitting it to law enforcement, you may be expecting to receive an immediate response from police due to the pain and suffering that you have been caused. However, this typically is not the case at all. In this article we will cover the processes that you need to be prepared for, providing you followed my instructions in the first part of this article. If you did not follow my directions on reporting harassment to police, your results could be completely different.

1. Text Message Harassment Evidence Submitted

One thing you need to realize is that what you have seen on television is not reality. No team of sexy female and ripped male detectives are going to ponder over your evidence in a sleek and stylish boardroom. Nobody is going to be drawing up poster board size charts of your evidence to share with their fellow law enforcement officers and nobody is going to rush to aid you and your family. The only exception to this is if you’re a celebrity and/or your case is newsworthy. And even if you feel your case is worth of being on the news, it most likely won't be unless it involves a celebrity, since the police are already overloaded with crimes of “bigger importance” (in their eyes). Sorry, the truth sucks sometimes.

After your evidence has been submitted it should go to a detective. Do not mistake a detective for a police officer, as they are two completely different roles. A police officer does not have the capabilities of a detective. A detective is a “promotion” from "officer." A detective is able to overstep jurisdiction boundaries to inquire about information. So, with that being said, it really is important to take your case to a person who can truly investigate the case.

So let’s say you did properly submit your evidence and it did go to a detective. You can now expect that they will review your text message harassment evidence.

2. Review of Your Harassment Evidence

The “review process” totally depends on where you live and the person working your case. States like Michigan are far behind in terms of Internet/cyber/“virtual" crime. States like California are on top of their laws and continually adapt to the changing times. While it would be nice to be able to expect that your detective will do something promptly about your harassment, it may not be the reality.

Common Mistakes in Harassment Reports

A review of your case will start off with a look at the evidence you provided. Keep in mind: the detective you are dealing with could be unfamiliar with technology. Unfortunately, there are no current requirements for law enforcement to be computer savvy or have a thorough understanding of Smartphones, IP addresses, Facebook and so on, despite the ever-increasing amount of harassment and stalking occurring using these devices.

Let’s say you have a somewhat up-to-date detective who has the time to invest into trying to figure things out: He or she is going to glance everything over to ensure it makes sense. If you are leaving out valuable details or if things just don’t “add up,” the detective is going to take your case less seriously. Here are examples of what can lead to this situation:

  1. If someone is harassing you and you continually responded, then you have “fueled the fire.” If you responded with anything other than “Cease Harassing Me,” then you are being a catalyst to the drama. If you do not want to be harassed, then do not respond to the texts. Yes, it hurts badly to have your children called names, but if you text back to defend your children, you are not demanding that the harassment cease. Instead, you are making another attack more likely by showing interest and no fear of the individual harassing you.
  2. Another major error is leaving out critical details. If you “forgot” to include the page of evidence showing that you spent two hours bombarding the text-message-harasser with texts of your own, you might as well scrap your whole case because you are just as guilty, even if you were provoked and reached your breaking point.
  3. Additionally, if your evidence is not complied properly, the detective is going to have a near-impossible time trying to navigate it.

What you see on television isn't likely to be what will happen in the investigation of your report.
What you see on television isn't likely to be what will happen in the investigation of your report. | Source

3. Getting the “Full Story”

Once again, we have to set aside the crime shows we see on television and look at reality. The detective will not be kicking in the harassers front door and pinning him/her to the ground to fight for the cell phone located in their pocket.

Instead, the detective will either call or possibly (if you are lucky) show up at the culprits door. Most likely they will just call and speak to the harasser over the phone and record his/her “statement.” It is also most likely that the harasser is going to throw the ball back into your court and blame you. If you genuinely are at fault for playing into the harassers game, the entire case will be written off as a “common dispute,” meaning neither party is right or wrong because both parties fed the harassment game.

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4. Detective Decides What Can Be Done

Another common misconception is that the person filing a complaint always gets to decide whether to press charges or not. Have you ever watched (or been to) real court? In this type of situation, an individual doesn’t press charges. The state presses charges if the case is deemed to be something the prosecutor wants to be pursue.

In the event that your text message harasser has sent you death threats or threatened to bomb your vehicle, and then two days later your vehicle is bombed, it is very possible that criminal charges will be pressed, but you will not actually be the one pressing them.

If the detective decided there is nothing that can be done, they will likely just return your evidence.

If your evidence is returned to you and you are told there is nothing that can be done, do not stop striving for justice.

Questions & Answers


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        Girl on fire 2 days ago

        hi is anyone can help me my ex keep threatening me because when i come here in sg he bought for me the ticket amd now we breakup he's asking the money and i can't able to pay for it and now he's threatening me that he will send my naked picture to all my friends and family actually i don't know about this picture but he stolen shot on me while am naked

        please help me i don't want to destroy my reputation and why should i oay?he also used my body his stupidi!

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        Kevin caudill 2 weeks ago

        I have been threatened for my life over itunes they told me they were going to kill me what should i do i have evidence

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        Anonymous 4 weeks ago

        Will the authority contact the harrasser via email too? Person I bothered told I was harrassing and said she reported and I wish to know if I'm in trouble or not.

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        Covfefe 8 weeks ago

        I keep getting text messages that read, "covfefe."

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        Anyomnous 3 months ago

        My ex boyfriend filed a restraint order on me I admit I did keep contacting him because I found out he gave me herpes I have text messages with him responding back to me asking me to put money inside his account if I was harassing why even respond of course I'm gonnna keep contacting u until I get through to u as to what u did now he's dating a new girl off a dating site n I can bet he didn't tell her he have herpes which he told me after the fact that had it I'm disgusted Been together for 3 years

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        Anonymous 3 months ago

        I started talking to a friends ex boyfriend and refuses to have a serious relationship so he's harrassing me calling me a whore bitch etc. And trying to break up a 20 year or so relationship with my friend. He's taking pictures of me and my apartment and gave them to his ex to start a fight with the 2 of us I had know ideal he had taken theses pictures. I blocked his number and messeges but my phone can show the block messeges he has sent he won't stop texting me.

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        John 3 months ago

        I recieved 2 text yesterday. One called me a whore and another a neuscance. Nothing threatening. All I know so far is that it's a fake number. I haven't gotten anything else. Will the police even bother tracking the person down? I feel bullied.

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        Anonymous 3 months ago

        The laws ought to be changed in order so that the laws state and rule that if you do not want someone to contact you, you must tell the person so directly instead of (1) reporting the person to the police and/or (2) having someone contact the person on your behalf. Reporting a person who is not out to harm you and has never threatened you to the police is despicable and having someone contact the person on your behalf instead of you yourself contacting the person directly is extremely rude. Also, you ought to be required (a) to state the reason why you no longer want anything to do with the person even if it was you who initiated email or other contact with the person in the first place, (b) to prove that the CIA did not brainwash you and turn you against the person, that your father did not order you to stop contacting the person or else your father will kick you out of his home and make you homeless, and that you are not subjected to any other form of duress whatsoever but that you made the decision to stop having anything to do with the person and/or that you want the person to stop contacting you out of your own free will, and (c) to tell the person how is the person supposed to know whether or not you changed your mind and decided to have something to do with the person and/or allow the person to send you email and/or in any other way to contact you, for the person is not a mind reader. The law also must require that peace be made between all people who have ever contacted each other through email and/or any other means.

        Please create and pass a law that makes it illegal for the police to keep files on people who are not out to harm anybody and have never threatened anybody.

        In addition, people who are not out to harm anybody and have never threatened anybody should not be jailed, arrested, or in any other way punished. The laws ought to be changed so that if someone sends you several emails but you do not reply to any of the emails but you do not tell the person who sent you the emails to stop contacting you, the sender of the emails cannot be imprisoned, arrested, or in any other way punished. If you do not want someone to contact you, you ought to be required to tell the person so directly instead of (1) reporting the person to the police and/or (2) having someone contact the person on your behalf. Reporting a person who is not out to harm you and has never threatened you to the police is despicable and having someone contact the person on your behalf instead of you yourself contacting the person directly is extremely rude. It thus ought to be illegal for the police to keep files on harmless people, for this violates people's privacy and gives them an unjustified bad reputation.

        Furthermore, imprisoning, arresting, and/or in any other way punishing harmless people diverts police manpower to the wrong person, thus making it impossible for the police to protect people from those people who are actually dangerous. It is thus wise to make peace between people who have ever contacted each other through email or any other means instead of punishing harmless people.

        Please reply.

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        anon. 4 months ago

        so i had an affair with this older male when i was with my ex boyfriend and i understand it wasn't right and i pretty much got myself into this... but now i'm in a really good relationship and he somehow popped back into my presence and is trying to manipulate my ex boyfriend into something he knows nothing about. i have told my boyfriend the truth about him being one i had a little thing with in the past and he believes me which isnt the bad part, but he is trying to tell him things about my past and we did together and i'm pretty sure trying to harass his way into breaking me and my boyfriend up. is this actually considered a type of harassment ?

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        Ask him 5 months ago

        I have been stalked and harassed for almost two years now, the police are not skilled in this area and it is very frustrating. I am hoping the loser is caught very soon. He's only called me 6x so far today, slow day.

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        Ha 5 months ago

        My account got hacked and someone sexually harassed my friends

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        GMa 5 months ago

        I received a inappropriate text and thought is was some one else. When I found out who it was I decided to not press charges but it was out of my hand. It’s still going to court. Does this mean the state picked this up.

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        Annomous 5 months ago

        I had an affair during a horrible time in my marriage, now the guy is threatening to put pictures all over the internet and send them to my husband. What can I do?

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        Hhah 6 months ago

        I’m being accused of sending text messages and calls to my husbands ex ,the detective now wants to speak with me but did tell me the calls where not traced from my phone number he just needs to speak with me cuz she believes it’s me , I have had issues with this girl from the get go . Why does the detective want to speak with me if the calls are not trased to my number ?

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        Oli 6 months ago

        I started dating this guy, a coupke weeks into it he got some traumatic news, which resulted in him shutting everyome out of his life including myself. I had a hard time dealing with it. I received a phone call at my work in which a man was asking questions regarding my boyfriend. Proceeding to tell me to stay away from him. I thought it was my boyfriends way of no longer wanting me in his life. When questioned, my boyfriend said it was not him. The next day i tried to just start over and he said it was over. I went to his house pounding on his door ringing the doorbell etc. He called the police. I have since discovered that it was a client of mine sending him and i messages. He did this to make sure he was no longer in my life thinking id want him. Well it worked, he dumped me. And Im left to find out who this person is. Do i file a police report? C an they tracl who he is when the number i call is suspended. He ruined my relationship and im devastated

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        anonymous in NC 8 months ago

        I texted my friend a few times before learning that she had changed her phone number. The out-of-character (cold and curt) replies I received before knowing it was not her tipped me off that I should find out if she did, in fact, have a new phone number. I switched my communication to the correct phone number for my friend as soon as I got her new number.

        Then I received a text message with a picture of male genitals from the stranger using my friend's old phone number.

        I believe this to be a crime. The individual who sent the photo knew that I did not know who was on the other end of the phone number. It was unwanted visual sexual assault. I called the police department and their advice was to block the phone number and not engage. Duh.

        But what of the crime? Shouldn't there be a channel through which to report (and expect follow-through) for this sort of thing? I believe that text messaging /social media / cyber behavior should be expected to comply with the laws of real-life interpersonal interactions.

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        Anonymous 8 months ago

        A girl who no one knows the name of had been brainwashing my now boyfriend for 9 months, I had been his friend for a while until he I realized how good he was to her and how he didn't deserve to be treated like shit. He finally realized when me and him started getting closer, we talk everyday. She wouldn't text him for a week or so and had been telling him to let go of her because she wants to kill herself, she even stooped down so low as to telling him her dad beats her when we heard him ask in the background of a chat call, "What do you want at the store Honey?" before she hung up. He finally got tired of it I told him he needed to tell her how he felt and to leave her before he got anymore depressed than he already was because of her. He finally did and that day we got together, we're still together now and that was around May 20th. I would like to know if she can do anything about me telling her to keep my name out of her mouth and that I'd make sure the whole time she says bad shit about me that I'd have an issue with it. She has harassed me and him for these past few months with accounts on a game telling ME to "Kill myself". Yet she thinks because of the bad things we said about her because they were true, that she would get anywhere knowing we live no where near her. Is there anything she can do with false screenshots hiding the rest of the chat?

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        Tessa 8 months ago

        Well Jose Reyes keeps texting me a lot and calling me a lot to and he is Harassing me by calling me with different numbers to

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        Anonymous 9 months ago

        My ex friend used to message my husband and I trying to get us to separate. And after I had blocked her on all forms of communication she got a hold of his number and started harassing him. If I threatened her in self defense does that put me in the wrong?

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        Kelly Krause 10 months ago

        When filing the evidence, what jurisdiction should you contact? Say the person lives in another state?

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        kailey 10 months ago

        I have been bullyed bye a 77 year old and i text her saying that she will be bit in the but for what she done and i and told her that i will luve on and when ahe dies that it will be over and she called cls they done nothing and i am afred of her pushing charges can she and i even said rhis is not a treat that i have every law to tell her i i feel

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        Name 11 months ago

        Is it the same for minors?

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        Anonymous 12 months ago

        I like to report my ex who keep on texting me about nonsense text he won't quit texting me